please help me, to say I’m at my wits end would be an understatement.
I have a lovely, kind, articulate DS (5) who is honestly the most beautiful child inside and out. I obviously love him very much. I have never been able to potty train him for poo, wee has been fine since he was tiny. We’ve had constipation, withholding, everything. He will go through a period of good times and seems to be getting the hang of the toilet and then we’re back to square one.
He is really funny and easy to talk to and the school noticed straight away he is intelligent but performing really poorly. Along with the soiling his pants every day they sent him to their educational phycologist who has now said he has traits of ASD. No diagnosis just that they need to give more time, repeat and help him organise. They think this poo issue is to do with this. But I’m no nearer a solution, all they did was give me a ‘Social Story’ to read about using the toilet. We are under the incontinence nurse but just given laxatives to stop constipation and instructions to keep sitting on the toilet. Which we are doing.
He knows he shouldn’t be doing it but can’t tell me why he can’t stop. He just can’t articulate it.
Other kids and starting to notice at school, he struggles to make friends as it is even though he seems to make all the right moves. 🤷♀️
what can I do do to help him, where do I even go from here? Please if anyone has any advice I’d really like to hear it, because when I say I’ve tried everything (yes and Eric were not helpful) please believe me.
Thanks for reading it’s long. X
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LittleMG · 06/04/2024 20:59
Headfirstintothewild · 06/04/2024 21:15
If ASD is suspected you should push for a referral now.
Is the constipation under control?
Has a physical cause been ruled out?
Has DS had a sensory OT assessment? For some, the difficulties stem from sensory differences.
What support is the school providing? Not just surrounding toileting, but more generally too. Does the school prompt DS to go to the toilet?
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