Hi everyone,
I’ve posted before but really could use some advice.
My son is 7, diagnosed ASD, global development delay and sensory processing disorder also ADHD suspected. We have experienced every challenge you can possibly think off. The current phase is anger and frustration. Day in and day out. We just cannot control with the amount of hate he seems to hold inside him sometimes, and this can sometimes stem from something tiny or nothing at all. He can hold a grudge on something that’s happened months prior. He can communicate effectively now, we had originally believed it was down to lack of communication or understanding but he can express exactly what he wants and feels with his PECs picture board and verbally. He is lashing out physically and verbally. He is a tall, strong boy and not far away from being the same height as me. This terrifies me. He is already so strong and powerful, if his behaviour continues as he ages, how can I help him? I can no longer physically remove him from situations due to him being too heavy. This results in me only taking him anywhere when I have other adults with me. My elder son suffers and misses out quite a lot. He regularly lashes out physically and can be very very rude, not just to me or his dad but everyone. None of this is learnt behaviour from us. Not perfect parents and of course we are only human and do occasionally raise our voices but we are both very patient and would never dream of saying a lot of the hurtful things he says when angry.
How to do possibly punish a child for his behaviours when we can’t determine what is done? Removing things does not work. He gets angrier. Timeouts? He doesn’t understand to concept. Giving him warnings? Doesn’t work as I get a lot of verbal abuse back. Calmly explaining how certain behaviours are inappropriate? He doesn’t grasp the concept and continues to get angry. We’ve tried breathing exercises, outdoor intervention, meditation
We have tried everything possible. Read every book or article, spoken to gps, his teachers (attends a brilliant SEND school) I’ve even taken an online course on autism and communication to see if we can understand his world a little better. I love him with my whole heart and it’s killing me I just want to help him. I’m physically and emotionally drained from the continuous behaviour. It’s affecting my relationship with his dad and our eldest son who just resorts to staying in his room as to not collide with his brother. I’m desperate. I just want to run away and hide. I physically don’t know what else I can do/try. Nobody seems to be able to offer any help or advice….my GP actually tried to prescribe me with antidepressants or anxiety medications, believing it was me not coping. It breaks my heart as each night he cries and hugs me and tells me that he is sorry and his brain tells him to be this way.
If anyone has any tips or advice it would be greatly appreciated xxx
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Shhh123 · 04/04/2024 21:54
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