MIL wants to celebrate important wedding anniversary with big family get together in antiques infested chintzy country hotel. This want work with madly active 2.5 YO DS will it?

[TrucksAndDinosaurs]

We live abroad but will begoing back to Uk this summer for a few weeks and renting a family friendly apartment in London so we can see family and friends and manage DS n safe space,continue with routine etc. (DS NEEDS routine or turns impossible. Possible ASD issues, being investigated. Not good in social situations at all,we don't/can't do restaurants etc yet, bad sleeper etc).


MIL wants us all to attend big family get together at country hotel several hours away. Spindly antique tables with china vases of flowers at grab height. Piles of cushions and curtains to climb and pull. Breakables everywhere. All very exquisite and hair curlingly posh. Well heeled older people sipping sherry in quiet peace. Croquet on lawn. Fine dining with tablecloths and silver,mlnen, glassware etc.

DS is 2 now but I can't see him being any less prone to destruction, climbing, running about, letting off wild shrieks etc by the summer. WIBU to say sorry we just can't do this and please come over for a nice lunch with us instead where we can manage DS? Or maybe just send DH up for the meal and overnight gathering?

It's sad we won't see the whole family but I don't see how to manage it. And if its an evening meal DS will be in bed and one of us will have to stay up in rom with him missing the meal anyway.

[AmberLeaf]

Glad to hear its worked out well

I can totally understand why you were worried about it.

Couldnt make sense of the initial replies until I realised this was posted elsewhere first

[Me23]

Glad it worked out, though this thread has now made me question whether ds has sn as he is high needs and sounds a lot like your ds and some of the other posters on here

[Fishlegs]

So glad it's worked out! You've got so much to worry about, sorting this weekend business out must be a big relief.

[NoHaudinMaWheest]

So glad that you have that worry off your mind now at least.

[EllenJaneisstillnotmyname]

Stick around, Trucks. You'll get handholding and empathy from this board when you need it. It has been my greatest source of information and support.

[TrucksAndDinosaurs]

Thank you all again for the support. This is my second thread on this part of MN but I have lurked for a while and it is because of all the reading, following links back that I found out about MCHAT and followed up with GP and am now seeng a clinical psychologist about possible Dx.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/1676543-Just-took-toddler-DS-to-clinical-psychologist-for-prelim-assessment-for-ASD-Feel-awful is first thread. We have another appointment start of March and this will be where she observes DS and I have to leave him alone with her and not come to get him when he cries for me :(. A poster here has said I CAN step in and ask to stop assessment if DS is too distressed and just knowing that has made thought of it easier.

This forum is a good place.:)

[Snazzynewyear]

Hi Trucks, I was reading the thread before it was moved and have just looked in again. Just wanted to say I'm so glad you have had a conversation about the whole set of arrangements with your ILs and it has turned out OK. I hoped they would prove to be accommodating after all

[BlueyDragon]

Just caught up with your post saying that your MIL will come to London. That's great news. I hope you can relax a little bit now and enjoy the holiday. Your MIL seems to have been quite understanding and fingers crossed that continues - it would be nice if you had some more support judging by your previous posts, even if that support's far away.

A poster up thread was discussing phenergan. Whilst I've no direct experience of it, I have heard that it can have the opposite effect and make the child more active in some cases.