How to correct the --useless-- EP as his report lies and clearly shows he's not happy with me calling his boss!!

[sweetteamum]

Well, I am fuming and there is steam coming out of my fucking ears, i'm that mad!!

He's lied, insinuated things (not very subtle either) about me and basically sent this after I complained about him last week, to his boss.

I would like to reply telling this flipping idiot what I think of him and his useless knowledge of girls on the spectrum and say I think he's wrote the report this way because of the disagreements we'd previously had about him telling me my daughter would not be on the spectrum.

Any ideas are warmly received

[sweetteamum]

I don't have the report to hand (i'm out), so will report back on that :)

[sweetteamum]

and they were serious quotes too. . FGS!!

[sweetteamum]

Keepon I'd love to be able to say what I really think of him and his useless thoughts purely based on working with asd children does not make him a chuffing expert

I've got lots of recordings of DD having assessments, me getting feedback, how she behaves at home etc but ep has not took any of those into account at all.

[StarOfLightMcKings3]

Kind of. I'm not as bold as Boch in puting that so I'd probably just say.

Thank you for your report. Is this the complete version as I am having difficulty recognising my child in what has been written or is it a general report about how children with ASD can sometimes be?

[sweetteamum]

Staroflight I could hug you . . THAT is the wording i've been thinking about but am not able to portray it as well. Thank you all so much.

[StarOfLightMcKings3]

Okay, but I'm grammatically challenged so you might want to reword a bit.

[sweetteamum]

I don't care what your are/not but it's what i've been trying to get at.

I have added a few personalised names in but generally it's quite similar.

[bochead]

Star's worded it perfectly for you. Short, sweet & to the point. An air of non-threatening gentle confusion is what you need to be aiming for. (keep your powder dry at this stage).

My quotes in my last post were gems found in reports etc from my own LA EP over the years btw. You just can't fix stupid, but you can drive yourself mad trying !!!!! Send Star's note as a short email. Print a copy of the email for your file and then leave it while you focus your energies on something productive.

[sweetteamum]

Thank you. Message has been seen by all who EP cc'd into letter too. There's complete transparency that way

[KOKOagainandagain]

Was this the EP visit for assessment? I thought that the meeting with the EP revealed him as a complete toss-pot but DS1 still got a (crap) statement (going to tribunal). His actual written report was better but the draft/final statement omitted all the best bits anyway. What the lea did copy for part 3 was the recommendations for intervention he had made.

[sweetteamum]

That's what I was led to believe keepon

But he didn't do an awful lot with her, then, was very matter of fact about her being fine.

Oh I'd forgot about that - there's no advice, recommendations blah blah blah. He's spend more time trying to prove dd was not on the spectrum!

[KOKOagainandagain]

Odd - SA assessment was actually the fourth EP that DS had seen (1 independent) but he repeated the WISC-4 assessment. Classroom obs/talking to child/to teaching staff/parents was only part of it. Most statements are cut and paste from expert reports (part parental obs (not much) + psychological assessment + medical assessment + teaching reports (the majority)) - there is nothing original. Where will they copy part 3 from?

[sweetteamum]

It's very odd. The report was more about how she appeared to him and focussed very much on the things him and I talked about. tbh there are too many errors to correct. If I knew I didn't need it further down the line, i'd shred the useless piece of future toilet paper.

I spoke to his boss last Thursday and this report was only typed up on 3/12/12 and he saw her back in October. It's like a diary of events but then lots of twisting what was said. It's like everything he said, it was the complete opposite. How do they get away with writing such shit?!

Can I ask him to be released from our case, because his personal views about me are interfering in his work?

I don't really know what will happen as she hasn't been in school long enough for them to even know her, report on her. And what they have said on report, it's what they've already gone back on from meetings.

[ilikemysleep]

Can I just say, guys, I'm sorry you have had such bad experiences; we aren't all useless. I like to think I am quite good :-)

In all seriousness, you can indeed ask to be transferred to a different EP.

[StarOfLightMcKings3]

My ds' EP was quite good actually. I mean she listened and attempted to help where she could, but her hands were absolutely tied when it came to recommendations. She also reported us to social services in the end though.

[sweetteamum]

Thanks ilike I know you do seem to be a rare nice, reasonable one and I've just typed a letter asking for a different one

I'd love one that just pretends to help at the minute star. But why on earth did they refer you there?!

[StarOfLightMcKings3]

Tbh, I don't think she was an evil witch. There was evil in the system and she was a part of that but I think at the time she had genuine concern.

What happened next is the LA rubbed their hands in glee and it all go out of hand. I had VERY good cause to raise a complaint against the EP for the way she handled it but actually on THIS occasion I felt she was a bit of a victim herself and she was about to go in maternity leave.

The nasty bullying piece of work that followed her was quite another story however.

[StarOfLightMcKings3]

And I did write to her and tell her that she was an unprofessional bullying liar and to keep the hell away from my family incidentally. An she did.