Our ds turned 4 a couple of weeks ago and has always been what I would describe as "hard work". I have long felt that there is something slightly different about him but as he is our eldest I have waited to see really whether he evened out over time.
He is in the nursery class at our local primary where they say that he is getting on fine and although he finds holding scissors/a pen hard work they of course think its too early for this to be a "problem". I haven't mentioned my thoughts about aspergers to them, I just talked to his teacher one day about his behaviour because he was being such a nightmare at home! of course, she said he was lovely at school..
we recently moved a long distance so there was a big change for him there which tbh was very very hard work for him.. but i have been reading a bit online about aspergers and it has rung some bells.
So anyway, this is what he is like:
very bright and capable with letters and numbers - can do addition and subtraction etc..he is very articulate and has language ability beyond his years.
he has always been a bit slow to grasp motor skill type things - as I said, he finds holding a pen properly very challenging and even eating with a fork is a major hassle for him.
he is OBSESSED with trains! specifically diesel locomotives.. he finds it hard to think or talk about much else at home..he could spend hours watching youtube videos of them and looking at train magazines.
He does like being around other kids and does seem to make friends where i have arranged playdates etc.. but actually he is fine with his own company and really only plays well independently, he gets too bossy and controlling to properly play with other kids..
So he is very controlling, especially at home with dh and I - to the extent that it drives me to complete distraction and tears Today was especially bad.. for example at the moment he will not cross a road that requires a "green man" light unless he is the first person to have pressed the "wait" button.
He is happiest when life has a routine - moving house was just a nightmare because EVERYTHING was different and he spent a lot of time at first physically attacking me when he was upset - mostly I think because he was anxious and overwhelmed. This has improved (we have been here 3 months) but we went away for the weekend for the first time last weekend and he went back to be very physically attacking and controlling.
He gets easily upset by loud noises and new experiences - eg the other day we went to see a waterfall and it totally freaked him out, he ran away screaming.
I think those are the main things (!).
However, I will just say that he is very good at conversation and social interaction and is very confident in that sense. He seems to have some level of empathy for other kids, although not so much for us, his family
sorry for the endless post but I just wanted to hear some wise perspectives
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is this normal 4 year old behaviour or could it be aspergers?
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