Hi all, I'm hoping someone might have some advice.
My daughter, nearly 14, has Ehlers-Danlos and since September has had issues with walking to school, pain and exhaustion meant that she wasn't able to manage the 35 min walk any longer. She's autistic and the pain can mean she refuses school if she's had to walk any distance at all the day before.
I started to drive her to school around my job as a teacher, 17 miles away. It caused multiple issues, she was waiting around outside school for over an hour for me to arrive after work, was having to be dropped off an hour before school so I could get to work. Despite this, just not walking to school has increased her attendance so much, she's much happier and less tired.
However, my work has suffered as I'm a teacher and I was having to run out of school as soon as I finished teaching, I was late most days and was having to work late every night to catch up as I wasn't getting anything done at school. I was driving for 2.5 hrs a day to get her to and from school.
So, applied for school transport, got denied twice, took it to appeal and was delighted yesterday to hear they have granted her a taxi every day.
Relief has quickly been replaced with worries though...prior to this she would go to her grandmother every day after school to have some dinner some days and wait for me to get there to collect her.
School transport will only pick up and collect from home, even though her grandmother is on the route and is actually closer. I live rurally, about a mile from her grandmothers, with only 3 neighbours.
They've also said someone has to be here to meet her and escort her to the taxi. I've no idea what the pick up and drop off times are yet, but if she arrives even 45 mins after she finishes school, there's no way I can get here and if I have to wait for her to be collected in the morning, I still might be late for work.
I can't stop worrying that even though she's fine to let herself in and wait at home alone for maybe 30 mins before I get home, that they won't let me do that. I have no idea how long it will take to arrange the transport, there's already a taxi available apparently with two other students, but my brain will not stop overthinking that I might have gone through 3 months of stress and applications and appeals to only end up having to continue as we are anyway because they won't drop off to childcare, only the home address. Added to this, I'm separated from her dad so his midweek contact (where he used to collect from her grandmother after she'd had dinner with her) might now not happen and I really, really need that midweek break so I can stay late at work and get caught up..he doesn't drive and won't finish work to collect the kids until 7pm, which was fine when they were with their grandmother but not if she's here alone and her brother is with her grandmother.
Just wondered if anyone had any experience of the driver's and their flexibility? Do they insist on seeing a parent, even with a teen? I know the council won't budge (even though it would cost less to drop her off at childcare!) But I'm just hoping there might be a workaround somehow. We are in Kent, so it's KCC.
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Icantpeopleanymore · 27/01/2024 18:28
SearchingForSolitude · 28/01/2024 18:41
You should look at requesting an EHCNA. IPSEA has a model letter you can use.
Morph22010 · 05/02/2024 07:05
This wouldn’t solve the transport issue though it would still be the same
SearchingForSolitude · 28/01/2024 18:41
You should look at requesting an EHCNA. IPSEA has a model letter you can use.
SteveAP · 08/04/2024 20:49
Hello. My son is getting amazing help with his school (SEN) Sadly we have to move soon to a village 10 miles away as local housing is not affordable.
I applied for school transport but council said we don't meet the 2-6 mile rule! I feel an appeal would be pointless as the 2-6 mile rule would still apply , has anyone any experience in appeals please.
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