Private school doesn't want ds

[DorothyL]

Once the "senco" heard about what his needs are she suggested this might not be the school for him...
Weird and slightly upsetting feeling but hey ho

[TheDeskIsMyHome]

My experience is it depends entirely on the school in question & attitude of the SENCO and head (private or state)

[Trying2bgd]

I know this is a slightly old thread but thought I would put down my experience at her private school (year 3-6). My dd1 has dyslexia but it was not diagnosed until year 6. She struggled and I helped her 'work hard' to keep up. She had a terrible relationship with one of the teachers who pretty much hated her due to the fact she wasn't performing and doing what was expected, she pulled my daughter's hair and took her stuff and threw it in the bin! I complained and the Head said yes this teacher isn't very good with kids who are not A-B types ie academic and compliant. He had a word and she kept her distance from then on. Other teachers were better but still labelled her as not bright just creative as they just couldn't handle any form of SEN! She is a super resilient kid and despite everything pretty happy at home but I didn't realise the long term ramifications of 4 years of being labelled as such. She is in Year 9 now and decided to have counselling. From it we have discovered the terrible effect it has had on her self esteem and confidence which has resulted in her difficulties connecting with her peer group as she is afraid to say or do anything which might be deemed stupid, this in turn makes her socially awkward. She is not the bottom of the class but assumes she is. I feel like a failure as I should have spotted it earlier but as she just got on with things, I thought everything was fine. What I am saying I guess is that if a school doesn't have supportive teachers as well as SEN support don't send them no matter how great the school is supposed to be. This bloody school was and is a very sought after London prep, I can't express how much I regret sending my dd1 here now but all I can do now is move forward and support my child.