I have a 5 month old and a 2 year old...my partner says i am always tierd!!! RANT!

[hayleybop]

Hi I was up all night and the night before that as my 2 year old had and still has diarrhea, changed her nappy at least 5 times in the night and I had to see to my 5 month old who wakes around 3-4 times a night and wakes me up at 6am for the day, she has a cold!!!So naturally the next day I was exhausted and very cranky...
My partner and I had an argument as we often do about the children.
What annoyes me is he say's your always tierd'!!!!As if it's my fault that I am tired. Infact I'm not always tired...I have hardened to the lack of sleep I do get and I just get on with it...most of the time!
Please can you reply to this rant to tell my ignorant partner that it is NORMAL to be tired and irratable when you are up all night with two babies...He just dosnt get it!!!!

[ches]

Working is NOT an excuse. "Oh, so you get to sit on your bum in an office all day. How lovely!" (I work full-time and get up with a 2yo 3-4 times a night so my heart bleads for him.) Chasing toddlers is v. hard work.

[hayleybop]

My toddler usually sleeps through, she's been up due to illness. He could help out at weekends when pigs fly. He's totally useless so going to sell him on ebay!

[chequersmate]

Does he work 7 days a week then? Surely he could do the weekends or whenever it it he doesn't need to work the next day.

[mankymummy]

i think actually you have three children, but one is a tree surgeon... !

[hayleybop]

I have two children, yes it's true he dosnt get a look in at the moment as i am sooooooooooooo busy seeing to the both of them.

[hayleybop]

Thanks I dont mind your swearing...I do tell him he is selfish so he then says I am agressive!!!! I'm never going to win!
I was so tired yesturday I felt like i was going to pass out.

[mankymummy]

well...on the days he doesnt have to work the next day tell him he will be the one getting up in the night. then see how bloody tired he is.

and why is he using "you are always tired" like an accusation.

what he really means is "im not getting enough attention".

how many children did you say you have?!

[PortAndLemon]

He reckons he shouldn't get up as he has a dangerous job?

So, in other words, he reckons that if he did get up he'd be tired the next day (too tired to be functioning at 100%)?

But when you've been doing it with no break he's surprised that you are tired? He thinks perhaps that your extra X chromosome conveys super-powers?

[KingCanuteIAm]

Do you drive? With your children? Perhaps you should ask him how it is ok for you to do something potentially dangerous on no sleep if it is not ok for him to do?

Seriously though, the tiredness with a young baby is crippling adding a toddler does not make things easier and he needs to stop being a selfish arse and get his butt out of bed once in a while rather than complaining that you are tired when you have not slept

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

Selfish, stupid cunt.
And I mean that. Who the fuck does he think he is to complain about you being tired? If being kept up with sick babies is too tiring for him to do, he should have some fucking understanding for you. If it's no big deal, he should take his fucking turn.

Sorry for all the swearing if you are of a nervous disposition

[hayleybop]

He dosnt get up with them, he is a tree surgeon and reckons he shouldn't get up as he has a dangerous job but I know other tree surgeons that do get up for there kids.

[PortAndLemon]

Of course you're always tired if you're up several times a night!

Why isn't he doing his share of the night time stuff? After all, he clearly thinks that it's possible to have limited broken sleep and not be tired the next day.

[greatwhiteshark]

tell him to shut up. It's normal to be tired for the first 18 years of being a parent and he'd better get used to it!

[chequersmate]

Does he ever get up with them?