What would you say to neighbours complaining about your baby crying at night?

[zuzkah]

Hi there. We moved recently in a private block of flats and put our ds, 9 months old, into his own room. So it was the change, teething, being ill and coping with no more bf at night (not all at once but within a month) that was disturbing our ds's sleep. He would wake up and cry 2-3x a night, we would go to him to calm him down. Mind you he is getting better and sleeps well some nights. He cried once 30 min. the longest. Then one day the secretary of the building knocked on our door to asked how is our ds doing. She was nice about it as she has a daughter. However, she came as some people were complaining to her about our baby crying at night. What would you say to these neighbours?

[zuzkah]

Wow, what a strong response.
My ds was crying while I was holding him and wouldn't stop. There was nothing we could do but be there for him.
I understand they need to wake up in the morning and go to work and I feel for them. On the other hand, the interest of my son is more important than of my neighbours.
BTW, I thing the people who complained live above us. A couple of twentysomething guys, who came home at 2am on SUnday morning, drunk, banging the doors, having a really loud conversation in the hallway, then putting music on loud in their flat and singing to it! And it was going on for an hour. I understand they are young and not that long ago I was the same. I didn't go knocking on their door.
I guess the secretary explained the situation and I know that once you kind of know the reason you can be more understanding. Or they will understand once they have their own crying baby...

[HereComeTheGirls]

Oliveoil - you are lucky, if my DD was really screaming showing her a bottle/boob would make her worse

[Becky77]

Yeah it is just the way things are in flats but it really does help to know how long it's going to go on for and to an extent what the reason is... Then you can feel sympathy and not just rage in the midst of sleep deprivation.

[SauerKraut]

Guess you've never had a baby with colic, then Olive- lucky you!

[Becky77]

@ zuzkah - just read your post about the twentysomething guys... In that case I'd say crank up the volume on your baby!

[HereComeTheGirls]

zuzkah - I hope you complained to the secretary about their music too!!

[Oliveoil]

God calm down everyone, jeez

I am saying what happened for me not for all babies in the world ever

[HereComeTheGirls]

We were only saying you were lucky

[zuzkah]

Im thinking of going there with my cute son in my arms and try to explain the situation. But only if he is going to be crying a lot again. (Wait till next teething ) I guess when he wakes up 2x and cries for 5 min. before he settles again that's normal, isn't it? And sometimes he does sleep through and wakes only once briefly for a feed around 5 then sleeps again.

[HereComeTheGirls]

I wouldn't worry about explaining to your neighbours, if they seem inconsiderate, I would think if your landlord is understanding that is the main thing!!

[Oblomov]

Apsolutely staggered that anyone would complain. How odd.