I'm at my wits end with my 9 month olds sleep.

[Washo12]

Okay so I need some advice about what to do about my 9 month old.

Soooo both day and night sleep are pretty bad....
During the day she has one car nap for 30 minutes every morning, which is less than ideal because her older sister (just turned two) has to come too so we all just end up sitting in the car while she sleeps. Then I am able to put her down for a second nap when her older sister goes down for a nap and I was rocking her to sleep for this nap and putting her down asleep (she only sleeps for 30 minutes at this nap usually... which is infuriating because she wakes up so sad and still tired but no a point of rocking or feeding helps her go back to sleep.
My new sleep problem is that instead of being rocked to sleep without too much trouble she writhed around, arches her back screams for about 20 minutes before finally giving in and falling asleep. Me a mum of two under two both of whom have been awful sleepers am totally frazzled I can't bear to rock her any more since birth she's slept in the sling for every nap for the first 7 months and now I'm barely able to make her have a nap in the day and she's just spending most of the day upset and overtired.

In the night we co sleep which everyone told me would mean I got a good nights sleep but in-fact it's horrible she wakes most of the night every hour she's finished sleeping at 5:30 on the dot every night and screams and screams until I take her downstairs for fear she will wake her sister in the next room. She goes to bed at 7pm every night we rock her for around an hour before she'll accept being put down then I get to enjoy a very disturbed night of having her in the bed. I've tried putting her in her cot and going in to feed her but I can't settle her back on the cot after she's had her feed during the night!

A few points to help give context

-She's breastfeed exclusively although doesn't fall asleep on the boob ever :(((((((

-she's been an extremely unsettled reflux baby who's screamed day and night since being earth side. Currently on omeprazol which doesn't seem to be helping if I'm really Honest. Although we wouldn't dare stop giving it in case it made her worse.

-I thinks she's probably sensitive to something in my milk (probably dairy) but I eliminated it and it's didn't seem to change her too much!! I would love to put her on a bottle and give her neocate formula (my first daughter was on this formula and boy did it help) buttttttt she won't have a bottle so it's still the boob for now (which she does not care for much)🫠🫠🫠

I am at my wits end, like struggling to cope on intense levels I've got very severe pnd from the back to back screamy reflux babies and at 9 months in to my second super unsettled baby I just have nothing left on the tank to give! I know you have to keep giving becuase that's just life butttttttt some advice about what you would do In my position. I keep going back to the dr who's last suggestion was just to chat you the HV despite my 9 month old baby screaming the entire appointment at the top of her lungs.

Would you sleep train her! If you would how would you go about doing this I feel very opposed to leaving them to cry.

Short of looking to send her away (definitely joking) I don't know what to do my husband has had to go onto reduced hours at work in order to help be because I'm hanging on my threads 🧵

Any advice is very welcome

[BeckyBoo16]

This sounds tough. I co slept with my little one until he was 9 months and then he kept waking throughout the night, he learnt to crawl and was all over the bed and nobody was getting any sleep then! We then tried the cot but were rocking/patting him for ages and it was exhausting. So we sleep trained him, we used the cry it out method but with the adaptation of going in every 2/3/4 minutes etc and increasing it every night, some people will disagree with that method but it saved us, it took 2 weeks but he now goes to sleep every night with no fuss and naps are the same.

We did the same routine every night for bed and still do now (aside from bath nights), we did book, bottle (I couldn’t bf) and bed and then let him cry for 3 minutes then went in, picked him up, cuddled him and settled him, put him back down when he was settled and repeated it but increased it to 4 minutes then 5 etc. the most we did was 10 minutes and after a few nights we only had to go in a few times. After 2 weeks we didn’t have to go in at all. Did the same if he work during the night for a feed as well. I’m not saying this will work with your baby as they’re all different but it’s worth a try if it gets you a better nights sleep! Hang in there, you’re doing great 🩷

[Twocents]

Just looking through old posts, how are you now OP? That sounds really really tough... Also suffering with 9 month old sleep right now