When did you stop co sleeping?

[zaffa]

DD is nine months and has been officially co sleeping for about a month (as in we got back from a trip and didn't even bother to put up the travel cot in our bedroom for her to sleep in, crib was taken down and her cot bed in the nursery is used to pop her into while we get dressed in the morning). She's always preferred to sleep on me though, so actually this is blissful progress as I get lots of sleep and she happily sleeps next to me.

But when does it end? How do I naturally transition her out of it? I'm not planning on doing so yet as she clearly needs to be this close to me for some reason, she doesn't like to sleep alone or in her pram so much and likes to hold onto me while she sleeps too, I don't want to cause her distress by forcing the issue so I'm more curious about how others ended co sleeping - did your baby just gradually show signs of being able to sleep in other places or did you have a battle to get them out of your bed?

[Parmavioletmum]

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[Mandalalorianna]

13. I'm sure she'll move eventually!

[WashingMachineCrisis]

I bed share with my 4 year old and we both love it. I'm a lone parent so I don't have to worry about the affect on a partner. He's just started school and the cuddles I get in the night are really precious to me.

I often ask him if he wants his own room and it's always been an emphatic no!

[itsamadmadworld]

My little one is 14 months and still in my bed, planning on giving her her own bed at Christmas and getting her in that. She doesn't tend to move much in her sleep and only falls out if she's right by the edge and is rolling onto her side so I'll just be pushing one side up against a wall and having one guard the other side (I'm also on a tight budget and have spent most of it on the actual bed, mattress and bedding so can't afford much else). I imagine I'll still be in the same bed as her at points until she asks to sleep alone though as we've coslept since day one and it's just as much me wanting her with me as it is her wanting to be with me.

[HarrietM87]

We did birth to 8 months, with the next to me a glorified bedside table/bed guard. We transitioned him into his cot at 8 months (so we could have an evening!) by doing pick up put down (took ages) and then moved his cot into his own room at 12 months when I stopped breastfeeding.

[Keha]

We've 'sidecar-ed' a cot so she sleeps in the cot bit till I come to bed. I might end up getting rid of the bed frame and sleeping on the floor on the mattress if we get to the point where she can crawl out. We also might fully baby proof her room and then put her on a single mattress on the floor in her room in a few months. That means I could lie next to her to get to sleep and then leave her safely.

[VP91x]

I've co slept from birth until well.. Still going 😂. She is almost three now, she has her own bed that she dometimes wants to go to bed in, but I don't force it because quite it doesn't bother me for her to sleep next to me. She doesn't roll off but she does have a pillow next to her anyway in case. X

[zaffa]

Thank you everyone! Lots of advice that is very useful. I'm going to keep looking at options to stop her rolling out of my bed - the pillows do sound a good idea and I've seen some bed guards that might squeeze down the sides of our bed. I'm definitely going to invest in a camera - all once she grows out of holding onto me and also sobbing every time I leave the room to use the loo! (While awake)

[BeHereNowx32]

We co slept with DD from 5 months until 14 months. We did have to do a type of sleep training, which I was nervous about. But DD took to it really well, and now will not sleep in our bed (she wakes early so it would be nice for the mornings lol).
We got her used to sleeping with he her cot in our room, we sat next to the cot holding her hand. That wasn’t great because she would wake loads during the night looking for our hand.
We moved the cot to her own room. Lay her in there after her bedtime routine. Left her for 5 minutes, went back through to comfort and lie her down and repeated. It took 45 mins the first night, and now she goes to sleep fine every night (she does wake for her dummy during the night and early in the mornings but they are separate issues lol)
I liked co sleeping until she got bigger and was kicking me out the bed :)

[Harrysmummy246]

I bedshared in DS room, with the trundle bed we had rolled out but not legs up so a floor bed. But that started around about 14 mo. Before that when cosleeping, I really was so tired and bedtime took so long that I just went to bed when DS did.

It's not safe to use pillows as a suffocation risk is still an issue for a while yet.

[TellMeAStoryIllTellYouTheTruth]

Currently got my 8 month old DD on one side and 3.5 year old DD on the other! It's the only way I get any sleep!

[Gibbonsgibbonsgibbons]

Foam bumpers (or a pool noodle ) work with your current fitted sheets IME - they just make the fit a bit rubbish so you have to remake the bed more often/when the kids jump on it.

Teach your wee one how to get of a bed feet first while awake.

All of mine bedshare/cosleep - eldest is 12

[zaffa]

@NoRoomInBed

Sorry didn't mean cot bumper ment memory foam bed bumber thing. Thay didn't really help either did it? Sorry

I know what you meant, I saw those and thought what an ideal solution! Until I thought about my sheet dilemma

[zaffa]

@NoRoomInBed

You can buy a memory foam cot bumber it goes under your sheets I use it for my 3 year old and hes not fallen since.

I saw this too! However we already have extra deep sheets for the mattress, and they are fairly new and were quite expensive so I'm a little reluctant to buy another whole batch of them and even if I did, what size would I get? (Sheets fit very snugly now). I know obviously if my choice was new sheets or DD rolling out of bed I'd choose the sheets, I'm just hoping there's a magical solution out there that is easy and cheap and uses existing household implements .

[Shouldbedoing]

We're not out of the woods yet. I still find him there in the morning some days

[NoRoomInBed]

Sorry didn't mean cot bumper ment memory foam bed bumber thing. Thay didn't really help either did it? Sorry

[NoRoomInBed]

You can buy a memory foam cot bumber it goes under your sheets I use it for my 3 year old and hes not fallen since.

[Took]

I'm so relieved you posted about an older child too, Should!

[Shouldbedoing]

You beat me, Took

[Shouldbedoing]

You best ne Took

[Shouldbedoing]

Just before his 10th Birthday

[Took]

12.

Thats years, not months. 😬
He's still not in his bed! Cant imagine it'll last much longer though.

[zaffa]

Hahahaha she has such a sixth sense! She must have known I'd just typed that and to prove a point stirred and grizzled until I found her dummy and popped it back in her open mouth 😂

[zaffa]

@heyhoo

I have a nine month old that co sleeps, I have bed guard on her side of the bed (we are getting a king size delivered tomorrow so her dad can join us again) and if I want to put her down before I go up I put a pillow the other side not to near her but have a camera on her so if she moves I can see. I've only been putting her down the last week and she hasn't moved enough to make me go up and move her yet. She used to hold me to sleep but seems to have stopped the past week or so allowing me to put her down before me! Good luck!

I thought about a camera! I may just go down that route and get a real handle on how much movement there a actually is. Currently there has been no movement and she isn't even holding me! (Although I do have my hand on her tummy mostly)
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[OverTheRainbow88]

We uses bed guard. My DS starts in his own bed and always ends up in mine, he’s 19 months old.
We have mid night fights over my pillow!