I am on my knees with exhaustion, my body is in pain all the time, my muscles ache, my head pounds, my throats hurts, I have mouth ulcers, I am seeing things and can't remember basic things (I can't remember where I put the baby or where the mugs live etc). I often don't feel safe looking after our children. Today is one of those days and I can't stop crying because I am SO very tired.
DD2 was challenging in the early days refusing to nap at all unless in someone's arms (many people tried). Eventually I found out that she would nap in the sling. Now at just over 6mo this is still the only way she will sleep and it's wrecking havoc with my unresolved pregnancy related sciatica and PGP. My physio says that no matter how much physio I do, it will not get better unless I can rest and repair though some sleep too. Now when she's in the sling I'm limping and dragging my leg behind me in pain. I can no longer walk long distances. She also won't let me sit down when she's asleep in the sling, waking the second I sit down. If I stand up she will have three naps each day - 1.5hr, 40m - 1hr and 30m to 45m.
At 9wo she started self settling at bedtime and in the night. At 12wo she started sleeping through the night some nights and others waking at 1am for a feed and then 5am for a nose around and then settled herself back to sleep. Just before Christmas she got bronchiolitis and everything changed. She stopped self settling and would only sleep in our arms at night. We let her because she needed the sleep to get better. As soon as she was better we started putting her down again but she would only sleep for an hour or maybe an hour and a half at a time (and usually only if she dozed off in our arms). We didn't have a chance to crack this because a few days later she got a tummy upset and so again wouldn't let us put her down at night. Once she was better we tried again but this time she was waking hourly. Then a couple of days later she got a cold and cough (which she still has) which kept her up and night and the cycle repeats. In the middle of the week she also suffered from massive constipation (having moved her to follow on Milk - which we have now taken her back off of). That's fixed now, but now she has a tummy upset again.
The trouble eat she doesn't really eat much or get enough deep sleep and this is why she is so ill. When she is ill she doesn't want Milk and so takes forever to get better. Yesterday she had 23oz all day. She had Milk at 1am and then I offered again at 8am and she literally jus had 3oz. She just refuses anymore. Fair enough it's just her and lots of people don't feel like eating when she's poorly but we're stuck in this vicious cycle. We started weaning just over a week ago and we had a couple of days where she sort of humoured us trying a bit but she's decided food is not for her, so she just keeps her mouth clamped shut. I know it's still early days and I'm not worried in that respect but for some reason she just doesn't like eating very much.
The sleep has got so bad that last night she was up every twenty minutes. I am on my knees. DH is at work today so I've got DD2 asleep in the sling as we speak and DD1 is stuck in front of the tv with colouring. I feel that she's being neglected because of this but I have no energy. DH and I have been dealing with this in shifts but I have always needed 9 hours sleep a night to function and 8 hours to scrape through so anything else isn't enough. I seem to get between 3-4 hours of broken sleep a night. DH says he should do more but I don't feel he should. As tired as I am, he is in a manual job which has life threatening elements and needs to be able to focus. He is also exhausted. We have tried cosleeping but get even less sleep that way (I just don't feel comfortable with it so never manage to actually sleep).
The trouble is we are now so exhausted that we can't function in the night and don't feel "with it" enough to sleep train. We are literally like zombies and just can't focus so find ourselves muddling through. I wake up and don't even know what I'm doing. I also don't know that now is the right time to sleep train...she still has a cough and had a dodgy bottom again this morning!
That being said we have tried some sleep training but nothing has worked and she is just beside herself, hysterical with masses of tears no matter how gentle we are about it (i.e. Not done CIO). I know she needs to learn to self settle again and has bad sleep association but she is poorly and so I feel stuck.
I can't carry on like this. Thank you if you have made it this far (apologies for the essay). All ideas very very welcome!!
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MaverickSnoopy · 21/01/2017 09:37
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