Thats it, i lost it last night, i smacked dd3

[misdee]

i put her back to her cot countless times, she had been pulling my hair, clawing at me, sitting on my head each time she gets out of her cot. Then she got out again, and pulled my hair really hard, and i am ashame4d that i smacked her. i dont have any defence except sleep deprivation. i cannot see this problem ending till she can move into her own room.

[greyriver]

Does anyone you know have a nomad travel tent or the such like? There is no WAY lo's (including my 2yo) can get out of these once they are zipped in thats them staying put for the night. Not a long term solution i am afraid, but if it was me where my sleep is concerned I 'm afraid I would have to resort to using DD's travel tent as I cant function where lack of sleep is concerned. Hope DD3 settles down for you soon x

[misdee]

maybe i should do a britney and shave my head

[Beauregard]

(((Hugs)))
Dont feel bad misdee,everyone has a breaking point.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[AitchTwoOh]

i'd try to swap her with another toddler, one that sleeps and doesn't do hair-pulling.

sounds awful, misdee, you are a bloody trouper for putting up with it for so long.

[Twinkie1]

Misdee - I eventually resorted to using Medised to get DS into a routine as I was at the end of my tether with lack of sleep - only for a few days but it worked and got us back to a place where we were at least able to deal with our emotions without them ruling us from being overtired and grumpy.

He can still be a bit of a bugger - as he was last night - and DH so kindly put him in bed with us - DH is off today so could have kept putting him back and sat outside his room - but no (GGGRRR) he thought it better that we all get some sleep as I have an interview today - ends up that I am the walking dead and unfortunately look it becasue I had a 2 year old booting me int he kidneys for most of the night.

[PinkTulips]

grrrr, sounds just like dd when she was in with us, we had a second bedroom to chuck her in though so not sure what i'd do in your situation.

proabably swap her and dd2 around like the others suggested

[Aloha]

The hair pulling is just a phase - a horrible one but a phase. Would getting dd2 into your room and putting dd3 in the bottom bunk under dd1 be worth a try? I really do sympathise.

[misdee]

thats pretty much what i was doing, she gets out, i put her back, but if i fall asleep for a few moments and dont realise she has gotton out again then she starts with the hair pulling etc.

[PinkTulips]

btw, dd is a similar age to your dd3 and doesn't do naps either so i wouldn't worry too much about that aspect of it, she just needs to learn that bedtime means bedtime.

have you tried rapid return?

[misdee]

a single bed will be going into my room, but its a small single for dd3, am hoping to get her matress this week. (ikea vikare)

dd1+2 room is about 9ft by 8ftm they have bunk beds already in there. dh room is smaller.

[PinkTulips]

agree with aitch, there's a huge differance betweeen a very rare slap to signal that you've crossed the line this time and being regularly slapped for everything. it did me no harm either.

like you said you were shattered and at the end of your tether, lord knows we've all been there. i'll admit to having shouted at dd really horribly a few times when we were having similar probs, as if that was going to get her down!

{{{hugs}}}

still no luck convincing peter ye need to move?

[dejags]

Sorry I didn't read about the space issue. If this were me, I'd decamp to the sofa until she settles down.

[dejags]

Sounds radical Misdee - but could you re-arrange your room in such a way that a single bed could be put in there?

That way you could swap the girls out i.e. move DD3 in with DD2 and have your DD1 in with you until everything settles down?

Otherwise, could you afford to buy bunk beds and setup a triple room for the girls i.e one single bed and a set of bunks?

Don't feel bad btw - you are a lovely mum and your DD knows this - she is just testing you.

[Dottydot]

Would they top and tail? Is it worth trying for a night? I'd be going loopy with lack of sleep by now - or how about on the floor every now and then on a blow up bed - kind of as a treat, so that you at least get a proper night's sleep a couple of times a week?

[Aloha]

Oh poor you! My dd is going through phases of waking at night and she is so shuffly and kicky at night it's awful. Dh does nearly all the night wakings and looks grey atm - and I know you don't have that option.
Is there any chance you could try putting her in with her sisters?

[misdee]

theres no room for her to sleep anyuwhere else. if i let her get into dd2 bed then she pulls dd2 hair.

[AitchTwoOh]

she needs sleep during the day, surely? can you shut her in your room (with a stair gate over the door) for some 'alone time' in the afternoon?

[Socci]

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[Dottydot]

Oh Misdee - I think you've done unbelievably well not chucking her out of the window by now - that would be driving me bonkers...

Is there anywhere else she can sleep at all - hallway/landing/anywhere you can put a cot? You neeeeeeeed sleep....

[Socci]

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[misdee]

if she just climb into my bed and went to sleep i wouldnt mine, but she has to pull my hair and hurt me.

[ghosty]

It is such a hard age misdee ..... she is testing your boundaries at every level. And the sleep thing is clearly pushing your buttons and she knows it the little minx

[misdee]

she is 2yr old this week, and is in my room.