Nursery affecting sleep

[Emsy1984]

Does anyone have any helpful tips for helping 1 year with separation anxiety from starting nursery? We thought he was in pain during the night for a few weeks as he would scream for hours and wouldn't go in his cot, just wanted cuddles all night. We've now put it down to starting nursery and he's become clingy in the day with me aswell now. I've spent the last two nights sat on the armchair in his bedroom with him sleeping on me and can't go on like this. We are all exhausted! We've tried leaving him to cry a number of times but he screams so badly we can't do it for long and it doesn't get us anywhere. He only goes one day a week but missed a day over a week ago as he was ill and we actually got four nights of sleep a few days after. He then went back on Friday and has stopped sleeping and become even more clingy during the day. I really want him to carry on going to nursery and hope he'll eventually get used to it and settle down but we can't keep on with no sleep anymore. It's been over a month now and we've run out of ideas on what to do.
Any help would be great!

[Lilipot15]

To be honest my DD's sleep has never really been consistently good. DH has a long commute and is out of the house much longer than me so it's happened that I tended to do all nighttime wakes and dealt with most bedtimes because of this, and now I think I have dug myself a hole as this is what she is used to! Not great now I am also working. He is about to have 2 weeks off whilst I keep working so hoping that things will improve. She is very clingy to me today, so much so that I have got virtually nothing done! I do think a lot of what you are experiencing may be an age / developmental thing. Good luck, hope it improves. My DD has settled in to childminders, but I think we really only cracked it after several weeks because it was so sporadic.

[Emsy1984]

I work three days but he goes to each of our mum's on the other two days. We can't afford to send him to nursery twice a week and have no one to have him instead on that day. He usually has about an hour to an hour and half in morning and also in the afternoon when he's with me or grandparents. Sometimes less. But he's only having about 35-40 mins each nap at nursery. He's more clingy with me than anyone else too. Doesn't even want daddy in the night. Is your DD been sleeping ok now? How long has she been going to childminder? We keep blaming teething but can't see or feel any new ones. He's been poorly with a cold for two weeks now but can't shift it, probably because he's not getting enough sleep and rest. But this started before that so we can't blame the cold!

[Lilipot15]

I appreciate his one day a week may be because of your working pattern and your other childcare arrangements but I have noticed exactly the same with my one year old during her settling in period to childminder which was initially just one day a week. Things improved when she started going two consecutive days. She is still more clingy to me than anyone else though. It is also an age thing so it may not all be down to nursery.
Does your son get his usual naps at nursery? My DD definitely sleeps for shorted periods with childminder and this also has a worsening effect on her ability to settle at night.
Also consider teething etc...I can just see the tip of a molar peeping through.