Some background: DS2 (16 weeks) has been an awful sleeper since birth, but if anything seems to be getting worse. He used at least to go down for his first sleep of the night fairly easily (fed to sleep), but now wakes multiple times before eventually conking out (after much rocking and pacing each time he wakes). He stays down initially for about 3 hours, then is up at least every 2 hours through until 7ish in the morning, when he's up for the day. At each night waking I feed him to sleep, but he often wakes when I put him in his cot or soon after. So each waking it takes between 1-2 hours to get him to sleep. He has 3 reasonable naps in the day, but will only take these in the sling. He has reflux: I'm avoiding dairy and this, combined with infant gaviscon, seems to be keeping the vomiting under control.
I'm shattered / starting to feel quite ill from lack of sleep and need something to change. We've tried co-sleeping, but it doesn't work for either of us. I thought the BW shush pat method might help to get him to (eventually) self settle a little better; the problem at the moment seems to be that he is completely reliant on feeding / rocking to sleep, so can't get himself back to sleep whenever he (frequently) startles or stirs during the night.
I've ordered the BW book, but have already started trying a new shush pat "regime" and would like to know from any experts out there if I'm doing this right.
We've basically decided to focus on night-time sleeping for now, and make sure he gets some decent daytime naps in his sling in the meantime. So after bathing / feeding / winding down at around 7pm, DP sits holding but not rocking him and shush-patting. At this point, DS starts crying. He cried for 1 hour last night (whilst being held) and 30 minutes tonight before conking out. He only woke three times last night, and I'm waiting to see what happens tonight. When he woke during the night, I fed him to sleep, as I couldn't bring myself to wake him and then try to shush-pat him to sleep in the middle of the night.
Does this sound broadly along the right lines? The crying period at the start of the night is very stressful, but the only thing which will stop it is an endless cycle of rocking. And are we doing the right thing by focusing on his night-time sleep before trying to sort out his day-time naps? And should I be doing shush-pat in the middle of the night (really can't see how this would work at the moment, given the amount of crying at the start of the night).
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Shush pat for 4mo: are we doing this right?
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snowrevolution · 22/11/2012 19:16
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