Can we be allowed to post 'oh do fuck off' in certain circumstances. Like when people post 'is that really all you have to worry about?'

[Pagwatch]

Could we not have one each. Like a waiver.

Please.

[nickelbabe]

oh, Kate, I want to lightheartedly reply to tell you to ........ for that reply

i won't though.
cos i'm being nice today.

[AmberLeaf]

That's brilliant!

[LtEveDallas]

With a quick nod to KateS

I once had that very email - I had emailed in all full of ire about a deletion that I thought was unwarranted and questioned if we were being deleted for swearing now.

Hq's reply ran along the lines of "Of course we don't delete simply for swearing, that would be fucking silly"



I was impressed.

[KateSMumsnet]

In the wise words of Axel Rose, "nothing last for ever, even No-November rain"

MN is a constantly evolving ever changing beast, but that makes it exciting don't you think?

Fwiw, if people complain about bad language in general we send a "yes we allow swearing on Mumsnet" type mail.

We know perhaps some of you could deal with being called a cunt, or being told to fuck off. But at the risk of sounding like a total wuss, it just isn't nice.

Imagine you were having a conversation about an issue that was causing you a lot of upset. Then someone strides over and says "I heard what you said, and I think you're being a cunt".

We are playing devils avocado here, as obviously Mumsnet is as open forum, but we like to maintain a facade of decorum.

[Tee2072]

That is a very good question, nickel.

[nickelbabe]

yes, it has changed.

it seems to have become a lot more moderated than it used to be.

there are some sensitive souls on here.
why can't MNHQ send the "yes, dear, sometimes adults swear and that's just what you'll have to accept" email in reply to "miss! miss! she's picking on me! Miss! she called me a cunt!" reports like they used to?

[Tee2072]

I will finally agree it's changed.

But that's the nature of online forums. They aren't static. If they were, they would die.

When it's changed too much, I'll move on. Not any time soon, though.

[SarahStratton]

One would appreciate you vacating the premises?

[AmberLeaf]

A polite request at that.

[AmberLeaf]

Fuck off please?

More of a request?

[usualsuspect]

Any chance you could fuck off?

[juneybean]

Could you fuck off?

[AmberLeaf]

So, 'fuck off' is an instruction not an insult, that makes sense to me.

What do you say to that then MNHQ?

[SarahStratton]

Floor was great fun. Like a massive sticky jigsaw.

I know it's an old chestnut, but MN has changed. I thought it was me, and maybe i was getting tired of it, but DD (who lurks a fair bit) said today that it wasn't fun any more. And it's not, it feels like being in the middle of some oh so polite mummy mafia war. It's so subliminally goady and bitchy on here now, nobody's allowed to piss about without some self indulgent twat coming along and whining about it. And the reporting is out of hand.

Cba any more tbh.

[juneybean]

Are we not allowed to say "fuck off" how disappointing.

[AmberLeaf]

Yes, 'fuck off' is simply 'go away' but with swearing.

So if swearing is allowed as a rule, we technically should be allowed to tell someone to fuck off.

[AmberLeaf]

I got deleted the other day for saying 'you can fuck off with your [insert patronising comment]

I wasn't even telling the poster to fuck off as such.

I also thought that fuck off was allowed? its not a personal attack as such, its more of an instruction.

[Tee2072]

Hark at you! Decorating and doing it without running to MN. I am impressed.