I have been on the SN board for what seems like forever. dd1 was under 2 when I first starting posting about my concerns. She just turned 8. Not old, in the scheme of what we are talking about here.
BUT.
When she was that little under-2, I read about children who were starting school, about how to go about Statementing, and about what services there were available for small children.
then she started pre-school. and I read about infant/junior transitions, because that is what we would face next.
and all the while I read about mainstream vs SN school, and how a lot of the time, children who went through primary in ms (which is where the LA wanted dd1) ended up in SN school for secondary. this was when she was three
now she is eight. and I am preparing for secondary transition - getting all my arguments lined up, and reading about others' progress and route and problems with LA etc. I was talking to a mum at dd1's school just yesterday about hormones and periods etc - dd1 is (hopefully) a long way off, but again , I like to be prepared and mull things over. and, as it happens, I suggested a couple of things to this other mum (whose dd is 13 and has started her periods) that she hadn't thought of. because of reading I have done on here, probably a few years ago.
throughout the last 6+ years of my life on MN, as well as reading up, gaining insights through other posters' experiences, and thinking outside the box due to various threads, I have also (I hope) given support. to those with children the same age as mine, to those with children younger than mine, and to those with children older than mine.
I have posted mostly on ASD threads, because that is what I know, but have also popped up on threads concerning other disabilities if I thought I had anything useful to add.
a lot of the time when I have posted needing support, there has not been any clear cut answer. dd1's sleep crisis (going back a few years now!) had me on my knees, and many other posters scratching their heads. hell, it had several consultants scratching their heads too.
did I ask anyone to not post because they hadn't been through anything like it? no.
not many people on the board had managed to gain what I did education wise, when I was going through it. it didn't stop a lot of lovely people taking time out of their day to look things up for me, which wre specific to my case, and not theirs in any way, to help me when I needed it.
that still happens now - posters go out of their way to find solutions for others. that is the point of the board.
I have had people put in hours of research to find me the right cup for dd1 to drink out of. to find me the right legal precedent to argue. to find me a bloody house to live in when we had to skip counties. none of these things had been experienced by the posters who helped me on each occasion, and quite frankly it is bloody arrogant to assume that one has to be living the life in order to help out.
pooled experience is what the board is about.