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My fast & furious, silent, jackhammer sex life ......

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SunSeaLust · 08/08/2019 23:01

Just that really ... Been together 2 years, I really do love this man, but sex is really getting me down.

He will literally pound hard and fast, literally like I'm not even a person there's no stimulation, no gentle embrace, or any embrace for that matter, he'll either just pound away or if I'm on top trying to slow him down, he grabs hold my hips and literally rags me back and fourth within an inch of my life!! ... All the while in absolute silence on his part! Not a peep! I don't even know when he ejaculates! ... I've brought it up before & he got so defensive & upset I had to let it go! ... I get so sore and I'm so unsatisfied, the frustration is driving me insane!!! ... Anyone else been in this situation or similar

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LinoVentura · 17/08/2019 21:18

I suggest you take his stuff to his grandad's and consider him well and truly in the past. Do not consider taking him back or having casual sex with him, no matter what BS he might come out with in the future.

Jason118 · 17/08/2019 20:08

Stay strong and good luck

SunSeaLust · 17/08/2019 19:59

I know
I'm really struggling here as I look back over everything. But as everyone says, time is a healer. At least I really hope so 💔

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pinkyredrose · 17/08/2019 11:50

Rent free? Selfish sex? Do some work on yourself to try and raise your standards, you've been well and truely used.

Sodastream24 · 16/08/2019 08:18

Consider it the best thing to have happened, really.
He was never likely to change and you'd be stuck with silent shit sex forever, he actually did you a huge favour, mightn't feel like it now, but next year you'll feel so relieved.
Trust.

Strongtoday · 16/08/2019 06:43

Ugh, my god, you have really been used in so many ways! That dude is cold enough to give satan pneumonia and completely beyond redemption!

Happyhusband · 15/08/2019 14:44

Your life will be so much better without him. His future is grim. Now you know the truth you can start to put things in perspective. As others have said - hang in there, stick to your guns , you deserve so much better.

SunSeaLust · 15/08/2019 13:29

I feel like I can't breathe without him. He's been living with me in my rented property, rent free and all this time has managed to saved £15k as a result, now he has the money he says he wants to put himself first and buy a house for his future. That's the reason he went out and never came home. He loves the drink, it comes before everything, he's 33 and was living at his Grandads with nothing when we met. I feel so used and broken

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onemorerose · 14/08/2019 23:34

Maybe he’s seeing how far he can push you? I’m sorry this is happening, I hope you are doing alright but rest assured that you will come through this and you will be stronger and better for it. Echoing pp stay strong and don’t let him yank your chain. Remember there were flaws in the relationship before where he wasn’t prepared to acknowledge your sexual wants and I’d bet he didn’t acknowledge other wants in your relationship. I’d count this as dodging a bullet

Jason118 · 14/08/2019 21:57

He maybe saw the stuff and legged it? There are charity shops that will take it, maybe give him a few days to collect and let him know that's where it's going if he doesn't pick it up? Don't let him yank your chain, stay strong, good luck.

SunSeaLust · 14/08/2019 21:49

I'm so upset,
He never came to get his stuff ... I've had to bring it back in the house, I can't believe he's just cut me out like this and I don't even know why. I can't even get his stuff out of here
Thank you for asking.

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ISpeakJive · 14/08/2019 21:02

How are you Sun?

Holidaysmoliday · 14/08/2019 09:01

Do not be heartbroken and devastated!

He is not a decent man. In no way shape or form.

He is selfish and immature.

Don’t enter into any discussion with him
Let him take his stuff then run away into the sunset in glee.

Honestly OP stop settling for a bag of shit.
Why do women accept these relationships?

AllGoodDogs · 13/08/2019 18:41

Well done. Please stick to your guns and let him go!!

SunSeaLust · 13/08/2019 15:36

He's FINALLY unblocked me and made contact after I went to his Grandads house (where he's been staying/hiding) this morning (he was in work) ... He's coming round tomorrow night to "talk" what an absolute cheek! After not a word since Friday, his bags will be packed and on the door step tomorrow evening Thank you again for taking the time to comment on my original post! I don't have many people around me that I can talk to so it's much appreciated x

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AllGoodDogs · 12/08/2019 13:04

Sorry to sound insensitive, but it sounds like the garbage took itself out 👏

I hope you're OK, and will see what a toxic relationship this was x

SunSeaLust · 12/08/2019 12:59

No he's not seen the thread. I wrote it while he was at work and he went out straight from work Friday & not been home or in contact since

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HyperStella · 12/08/2019 01:04

Do you think maybe he’s seen this thread?

StarTastic · 11/08/2019 17:40

Hope you're ok. Yes you do deserve better. Just get through each bit as best you can. Just get through tonight. Then get through tomorrow. Whatever you decide is the right decision for you x

SunSeaLust · 11/08/2019 15:27

The sex issue seems so far away at the moment. He's still not been home, I'm still blocked on every form of contact and for what reasons I do not know! ... I'm absolutely devastated, but the positive side is this has opened my eyes and allowed me to see that just maybe I deserve better from my partner ... Thank you again.

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StarTastic · 11/08/2019 11:55

Understanding why he behaves this way and that this is definitely not because of you, it's all down to him will help. Focus on you now and loving yourself, treat yourself in the way you would treat a friend you care for, the right person will be considerate of you too. You deserve so much better.

StarTastic · 11/08/2019 11:52

He sees it as a personal attack as it's far more convenient to keep his sex life the same as he has it the way he wants it. Would you see it as a personal attack if someone opened up about what sex they like? Probably not. If you cared about fulfilling them you'd listen and explore their needs as well as your own. It's very selfish I think

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TemporaryPermanent · 11/08/2019 08:10

He sounds very deeply troubled and I think you've had a lucky escape.

Take some time for yourself and may be even a bit of counselling? Your 'sex life' sounds traumatising tbh. I wouldn't underestimate what being treated like that can do to you.

Hidingtonothing · 11/08/2019 00:45

that's clearly a display of how little he really thinks of me or values our relationship.

No, it's a display of how he's a total arsehole, and you deserve a whole lot better

SunSeaLust · 10/08/2019 14:25

I'm absolutely heartbroken, thank you all for your guidance & kind words ... I think of his sexual mannerisms with me and his behaviour the past 24hours, that's clearly a display of how little he really thinks of me or values our relationship.

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