Help, everything's gone wrong

[BoatyMcBoat]

When dd went into secondary, she was a very bright, conscientious, hard working academic child.

Now, in lower 6th, the Head has just told her she's lazy and will fail at life.

She still works hard. She's still clever. She is miserable and demoralized. She has officially dropped two subjects, and I'm considering just taking her out of school altogether and sending her elsewhere in September. I'm told I'm not allowed to.

She is so miserable.

[BoatyMcBoat]

There had been a problem which implicated dd, but which had nothing to do with her. When it was investigated, the truth was clear. Someone outside school had seen another pupil in particular circumstances and mistakenly identified dd, who was very quickly compleTely exonerated.

However, a couple of days later, one of the deputy heads - whose info was clearly out of date - collared us and told us off like we - dh and I - were naughty children. We were so shocked, we just stood there with our mouths open. That has never been satisfactorily put to bed. We have asked for an apology but it has not been forthcoming. We were wary of rocking the boat more, so haven't taken it further but were intending to when the big stress of actual exams was over.

I hadn't considered it drip feeding, but see now that it was, and apologise for it.

[BoatyMcBoat]

But yes, we are all heartily sick of the school now. It used to be a very good comp, but has slipped hugely and quickly in the time dd has been there.

New College, new subjects, new everything, will do her a lot of good.

[BoatyMcBoat]

Bojorojo, thanks for your advice. She did get almost all As and A*s at GCSE, and is more then capable of getting good grades at A level and then a good degree, which is her plan. She is going to one of the Oxford summer schools this year, which she is really looking forward to, so she's not been turned off education altogether, thank goodness.