So I’m pregnant and about to lose my job unexpectedly (long story on another thread but don’t worry I’m seeking legal advice). In the meantime me and my partner are discussing how it might work me taking time off between now and when the baby is a year old. We’re wondering what the best way is to deal with our finances specifically the money I would get. I’ve never not had my own money before. Do you get an allowance l? If so how much is needed? Any other suggestions?
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SAHPs in relationships - how do you work out money?
AmelieBear · 13/05/2022 20:00
DonAlfonso · 14/05/2022 10:43
Presents for us are more about the thought- we set a limit of £25 at Christmas and try to get something really great and thoughtful within that. It’s not really about the monetary value as obviously we share our money. We do do expensive gifts sometimes as well but even then it’s the thought that counts. We each have a personal credit card so we can use that if we don’t want the name of the shop appearing on the bank statement.
mumonthehill · 14/05/2022 17:03
Always joint account here and we have a certain amount each month out from it into our own accounts. We each get the same amount, not loads but we spend it on presents or if we want a treat etc. Has worked for us for 23 years!
theremustonlybeone · 15/05/2022 17:48
You seem to be getting defensive when posters ask questions. You say you have a pension and your own property. Well pensions need to be paid every month unitl your retire as do mortgages..Are you living in the property you seem to own so young? If not are your renting it out? If your so financially stable with a 'fully paid up pension' and your own home. Why are you worried? You need to be asking what your DP is paying towards the upkeep of his DC and paying you rent
rogueone · 13/05/2022 20:11
Do not be a SAHM if your not married unless your partner is going to pay towards a pension and not treat you like the hired help.
Not for me..my now DH asked me if i wanted to be a SAHM and i was very clear that was not happening, we were not married, i come from a broken home and wanted to ensure i was not vulnerable financially. So I have a good pension and have worked throughout. What is your partner offering you?
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