Hi, am not exactly a regular, but not a troll either just need to get my thoughts out really, am very confused and wondering if any of you could give me thoughts/advice. Thanks.
-Me and DP have been together for 5 years and have a 2yo DD.
-Last year me and DP nearly split up after i told him i was leaving (i had threatened it many times but had never meant it IYSWIM)He had been extremely emotionally abusive for a while, a couple of examples- He said our DD was the best thing to ever happen to him but he wished her mum was someone else, he called me fat, would say awful things to me and then ask why i was sulking, i would say i was upset at what he had said to me and he would say 'why do you always bring up the past' etc etc etc.
-When i said i was leaving he was very upset, apologised constantly for weeks. I said he had a month to prove he meant it, that was nearly a year ago.
-Since then he has not said one bad thing, still says he is very sorry for how he treated me, feels very ashamed of himself.
I believe that he is sorry, i don't doubt that, but i think it might be too late. I feel like i have lost all respect for him, what kind of person could speak to their girlfriend like that,even when she is crying and begging him to please stop.I wish i had ended it back then but i felt like i needed to try my hardest to make it work for DD's sake.
I ask him why he did it and he doesn't have an answer for me.
Our sex life in non-existant, i don't desire him like i think i should.
How can i tell him i think i want to go when he has tried so hard to change, and succeeded?
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Birdistheword · 25/05/2010 15:10
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