Apologies, this may be a little long....
ok, I have an ongoing problem with my DH in that when he is working an early shift that ends at about 3/3:30 or is on a day off he always goes to the pub (on his won) for around 3 or 4 pints and comes home around 7/7:30.
I have told him how this annoys me as it means that he doesn't have 'time' to help around the house and my DS (his DSS - aged 10) doesn't get to see him much... it also means that when he gets back he is hyper sensitive and will either snap, get offended by the slightest comment or go to sleep until around 9/10pm... he also has the habit of not coming to bed until around 2am and when he is working a late shift (2-10pm) he won't get up until about 11/11:30 and moans that he has no time to do anything...then I have to pick him up from work at 10pm (he doesn't drive and the buses would mean not getting back until 11:30ish) and until recently he'd always insist on getting some cans from the off licence etc...
he has been promising for about a year now to come straight home after an early once a week but still hasn't managed to do this... there is always some excuse such as a hard shift, its nme day etc etc....
What has made things worse at the moment is that I am now 36 weeks pregnant and have been asking him to cut back for a while... he promised at the start of the week that as of Thursday he wouldn't go to the pub but would go for a swim to unwind instead which is 5 mins from our house... he worked a late yesterday so not problem re pub but today he's at the pub, even on the way to the pub he spoke to me on the phone and told him he was out of order/crap at keeping his promises etc and he apologised by text etc but two hours later he is still at the pub..
I have told him that if I go intro labour when he is at the pub i will not be calling him and that he needs to sort his act out but all i get is can we start again from next week.... arghhhh
Am I being unreasonable in wanting a mature adult husband instead of a selfish deliquent adolescent??? He is 39 btw....
any advice?
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DH drinking frequently and breaking promises....
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waddlelikeaduck · 16/10/2009 17:21
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