What do you imagine your ex-boyfriend(s) are doing now?

[Ponymum]

I had a moment of catharsis yesterday and it really helped me. I am with love-of-my-life DH, but I had a relationship years before I met him that really hurt me.

I hardly ever think about the ex, but yesterday for some reason I thought, I wonder what X is doing now? I had heard he got married some years ago, but nothing since. Well, the thought that came into my head straight away was: he has messed up his marriage too, they have split up after a series of horrible fights, and now he is a bitter part-time dad with anger issues.

Is it horrible of me to think this? The problem is, the more I imagine that scenario, the more I am convinced that it is quite likely to have happened. I have no contact with him and really don't want to know whether it's true. But it made me feel better just thinking, I made the right decision to split from him when I did.

Do others imagine similar outcomes for ex-boyfriends? Or is it just me?

[VulpusinaWilfsuit]

are?!

[VulpusinaWilfsuit]

[weegiemum]

he sPoils my kids!

Never soils!

[weegiemum]

Thankyou shiney!

I though that an ex who was now a gay London restaurant host who was still friends with me and dh and soiled my kids rotten at Christmas was weird.

But I am nothing like as weird as you!

Thank You!

[BitOfFun]

[Bigmouthstrikesagain]

I like to think all my (not very many) ex's joined monastery's or the Foreign legion and swore off women cos they couldn't get over me!

Actually I do a stealthy google now and then and generally I have some Iidea of their careers etc. but no idea of the current relationships and that is just fine. I wish them well (cept one) and think of them only vaguely as my memory is so poor that I barely remember what they looked like.

[BitOfFun]

You never disappoint, Shiney

[BitOfFun]

[bethylou]

Of the two that really mattered:

1. (who finally made me see sense when he smashed up my car by hand and stalked me for months afterwards when I wouldn't take him back) is married with a child and teaching Primary aged children - still find this scary and wonder if I should have done something about it.
   
2. (who was always lovely) is flying in the RAF and is still lovely (as met for a friendly drink recently to catch up) but is still very young and not ready to settle down 5 years after I found DH and married happily.

[Ponymum]

shiney - a trannie story? Please spill!

I see that my aversion to Facebook has left me at a disadvantage in this game! I have only my imagination to work with.

[Goober]

Mine are all pining after me and crying into their pints.
They are proffessional failures and have no friends since they all lost the ability to wash since losing me.
They are all bald.
Fat.
And have no teeth.
Of course.

[yama]

I have two previous loves. One has never found love again (11 years) and the other seems to be happily married and in love with his baby son.

Facebook.

[BonsoirAnna]

My big university love is a filthy rich banker living in South Kensington .

My big school love is a not-very-successful banker living between Berlin and Hamburg.

My early working years love isn't doing much at all...

[beanybean]

Schrodinger - I'm a FB stalker too! I have a morbid fascination with what he's doing and the fact that I know what he's up to but he doesn't know I know. We went out for a long time when I had just turned 18. I only found out after we split up he had cheated on me over and over when we were together (and not used condoms), plus had lied about how his mum had died and told me he had killed someone while on duty (in forces) - also a lie. He's back in the forces now and married. I feel sorry for her - as I expect he's doing the same to her.

[Schrodinger]

I know exactly what he's doing. I've been stalking him on FB.

[wheniwishuponastar]

wow some amazing stories on here. not sure mine will live up to it, but anyway

1. boy from school - now is a city trader living on a tropical island
   
2. boy from school - ran away to australia
   
3. • living on canvey island as a deputy head teacher
     
4. working as a neuroscientist in california
   
5. broke my heart - but got in touch with me on facebook recently and apologied (about 15 years after the event)
   
6. school hunk who everyone adored. now an alcoholic and agraphobic (sp?)
   
7. saw him recently playing the lead in rocky horror picture show
   
8. now has a doctorate and is writing a book for the publisher i work for
   
9. seems to be happily married
   
10. seems to be happily married with two kids, bored with his architect's job apparently (?!)
    
11. has two kids
    
    that's all i can remember so far...!

[BitOfFun]

hahahaha

[MarthaFarquhar]

after seeing this thread, I had a quick google.

One of my exes is now a published zombie horror author . a review of the novel on the book jacket states, "rough, filthy, and completely brilliant". When we went out only 2 of those were true.