Worried about sex with new man.. hoping sex experts out there might reassure me..

[mummynewname]

Ladies, you may find this funny and I don't know if this is the right place for this - but I am seeing a new man - totally in love etc. - but I am really worried about having sex with him.

I gave birth to ds 2 years ago, and new man has a lovely but quite small and very slim penis. To put it bluntly - I'm worried it won't even touch the sides!

Have been doing pelvic floor exercises and everything - but I am so concerned about disappointing him.

Any words of wisdom very welcome..

[Skramble]

I was really nervous about the whole body thing, found the solution was to get shitfaced and switch off the lights. (this did result in him having raw knees and a nearly broken nose where we got so excited and rolled off the bed, he cracked his nose on his lovely bacholar style black metal and glass bedside table, but he carried on like a trouper and it was great, Ok I felt a little guilty when I saw his injuries in the cold light of day, but hey we had a laugh.

TBH honest after being with him for only 4 mths or so I feel more comfortable with the lights on than I ever did with exH (and that was even 10 years after developing a mummy tummy).

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

we deffo are! so about the first time again! lol.

[girlnextdoor]

Just get on with it- we are all waiting.....

[mummynewname]

I'm glad this has made some of you smile!
Thanks for all the reassurance.

Of course gnd - I will have to post back now.. probably this time next week if the deed has been done by then.

[mocca]

I had sex with my new man about 3 months ago after 2 years of celibacy. He's the least well-endowed of any guy I've been with and when I first saw it I thought the same as you do - I'm 50, had a child 8 years ago and really thought it wasn't going to touch the sides! But you know what, he knew exactly what to do with it and I responded and I'm enjoying the best sex of my life. I love him, he's a great lover and size has nothing to do with it! So just go with the flow and as you really seem to like him already, I'm sure you'll both have a lovely experience and many more to come.

[girlnextdoor]

will you post back after the event? Please

[charliecat]

ROFL at this thread
Have fun!

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

reckon so - the more you build it up, the less fun it will be.

[mummynewname]

Thanks - I am getting my (big) knickers in a twist over this I think.

I will just enjoy him!!

[hellebores]

tbh I think you are probably worrying about nothing, honestly. If he's shown you that he knows what he's doing when it comes to pleasuring you all right, then I would imagine when it comes to penetrative sex he'll know what he's about.

an ex of mine who was not huge was fantastic, managed to give me an O or let me give myself one while he was inside most times, just by knowing (ahem) which button to press, and if this guy turns you on - your half way there anyway!

[mummynewname]

don't mind answering.

apparently she thought he acted gay!!!! they never had sex on honeymoon even.

dunno what planet she must have been on though, to me he's been every inch (ha! got the irony) a perfect example of hetero-man,
grrr why am I still worried ?

[hellebores]

sorry, that was a bit nosey about his first W - don't answer that

[hellebores]

Maybe he does feel self-conscious about the size of his bits, but you say he's confident (in bed one assumes?) so it can't be all bad.

Six months not good though was it sex related?

Still, sounds like you're doing the right things, and if he has the hots for you and vice versa.. go girl.. you lucky, lucky thang!

[mummynewname]

oh I am, he's lovely. But I wonder whether he worries about it too..

..his 1st marriage lasted 6 months!

second was 10 years though so he can't be THAT bad. 9hopeful emoticon)

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

you should be proud I reckon!

[mummynewname]

looking forward to darker evenings - then maybe I'll let him take off the blindfold

[zippitippitoes]

well i didnt say it was attractive just damage limitation

[mummynewname]

even that's not so hot since breast feeding

• shrunken tits in armpits : (

[zippitippitoes]

no idea my only possible position is flat on my back any other and i look pants

[mummynewname]

you GIRLS!!

Just so I'm sure - are these positions good for him, you or both!?

(don't fancy reverse cowboy much - not my best side )

[Northumberlandlass]

Yep, that's it. It gets very jiggly... well I do cos I have jiggly bits.

Yee ha !

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

am yet to try that one on the sofa like that - reverse cowboy?? - you face away from him and stradle?

(oh the things to talk about of an afternoon! - still DS is with his nan and it's light relief from my studys!)

[Northumberlandlass]

sounds good Spandex

I also like the reverse cowboy...him sitting up slightly (preferably on a sofa), pulling you down on to him, your hand is free to have a play with yourself !

I'm now

xxx

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

lol. about eve - ok trick is - u on top, and you legs tight to his boy, and basically lean back a bit ooh yes! (helps if the man can kiss I reckon as well!)

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