Who is at fault here?
I don’t like kissing too much. At the time of the relationship, which lasted 10 years and I’ve always felt abusive I was undiagnosed. I felt like something was wrong with me because I didn’t like kissing, I was unaware about the autism. My husband was pissed off with me because he loved kissing. He used to shout and tell me I needed therapy, I was making him depressed because he felt unloved. He scared me an awful lot with his shouting. This is one of many examples of things he used to shout and swear at me about. I tried to push myself into doing things I really didn’t want for him so he didn’t shout but this just caused trauma for me. I thought I should have been doing these things as he told me and I always assumed they were just what normal people do. To be fair non ND people find these things enjoyable.
Was her wrong or was I?
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Relationship trauma when undiagnosed ND, partner shouting and swearing and scaring me.
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Rainbow03 · 17/04/2024 12:02
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