My relationship ended ages ago, it wasn't a sudden breakup. I was the one dumped, even though I wanted the breakup some time before it happened. Although I don't feel like I have the right to feel the way I do, because it wasn't a long term relationship. During the relationship I was bullied, degraded and neglected. I felt really unheard, and they seemed incapable of having a conversation. There wasn't anything particularly special about the relationship. I haven't even began to feel 'over' the hurt they caused me, I feel as strongly as I did when it occurred. I know the relationship is over. I know the importance of forgiving and letting go, and I know it is damaging me to hold on. I have vented to friends, journaled endlessly about all of the ways they were awful, and everything that was rubbish about the relationship. When I think about them I feel disgusted, and wonder what I ever saw in them. I have put myself on the outside looking in and imagined what I would say to a friend going through the same thing, and what I would want them to do. I have set up habits of self care, and I have found new hobbies. But my mind still wanders. I am very easily reminded of things that happened, and triggered as I still feel really intensely about it all. You would think I had no friends or nothing to do, I still ruminate about it everyday, and it's exhausting. It's even worse that they're not sorry, think I deserved it and couldn't care less about my wellbeing. What does it mean to 'be over' someone and how do I begin to get to that point?