DD17 has a BF who lives an hour away. DD13 is totally against him sleeping at our house. I find myself constantly in the middle of them arguing every time DD1 wants her BF over and being accused of favouring the other side. DD2 will sometimes stay at her grandparents so DD1’s BF can sleep over but sometimes she refuses.
Just to be clear, DD2 has never met the BF so it’s not anything about him. She is reluctant for anyone not from the immediate family being in our house including same sex friends. Things are difficult for her on a few levels atm so I’m sympathetic but I also think it’s fair enough for other household members to want people to come over, and even sleep over occasionally. I’m a lone parent, XH only tenuously on the scene so I don’t have anyone to share these dilemmas with.
Anyone have any ideas on how I resolve this please?
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GoolsFold · 27/03/2024 20:59
Neverhot · 27/03/2024 21:36
She wants you to pay her £20? I was understanding until you said that, that's very manipulative of her. Let the boyfriend stay over.
GoolsFold · 27/03/2024 21:34
She has had sleepovers in the past but has since decided she doesn’t want her friends coming over either.
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Oanyerselhen · 27/03/2024 21:24
I think I support your 13 year old. Why should she share her space with an unknown male. Can a rota maybe be agreed if she regularly stays with grandparents and that's when he can stay?
NotQuiteNorma · 27/03/2024 21:37
That's her problem, fine of she doesn't want her own friends round but she doesn't get to decide who other people spend time with.
GoolsFold · 27/03/2024 21:34
She has had sleepovers in the past but has since decided she doesn’t want her friends coming over either.
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