Chatting to a man for the week. We will meet early next week.
I am trying not to be distrustful or cynical but I'd like your opinions on whether you think he is married or not , please.
He said..
He's separated three years.
His children are still distraught , never saw it coming as they didn't argue.
Children are mid teens.
Kids with him eow and a few nights per week.
He has a really good job .
A beautiful car and his own home.
A lovely one in a great area.
All of the above is true.
He wants what I want ..
A casual but exclusive relationship, due to lack of time.
He wants it to be discreet as his kids are still devastated.
Doesn't want to rub his wife's nose in it and respects her.
He said his wife and he grew apart and were more like housemates.
We've spoken on the phone and text consistently throughout the day but when his kids have been with him, he is much slower to respond or initiate.
We will meet in a very public place next week in a locality close to his home.
I have told him that I also want discreet but not a secret , in that I don't want my kids finding out as they too are devastated about my own marriage break up.and they're too delicate right now.
He agreed with this.
What are your thoughts here?
My own ex cheated on me a few years ago so while I've done the work , I may be too cynical.
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Married or not? What do you think of this ?
atoughone · 18/03/2023 20:52
Crikeyalmighty · 23/03/2023 10:48
There are some real arseholes out there my friend tells me but many are extremely convincing. You have to feel sorry for the poor women married /partnered up with these chancing tossers!
atoughone · 22/03/2023 10:43
He had the worst teeth I have ever seen , not because they were crooked or discoloured but they were all different lengths
atoughone · 22/03/2023 09:59
I did ...
He gave me a completely different name.
I found him through this hobby that he competes in and is successful .
I found him through photos on Facebook on the clubs site.
And boy.... Am I glad I let it go.
I did wonder why he didn't open his mouth and smile in his photos and now I know 😳
Lucky escape for lots of reasons.
atoughone · 20/03/2023 10:11
I'm
Obsessed with finding the truth having been catfished. Is that so bad ?
Sandra1984 · 20/03/2023 13:18
Guys who engage in these type of shenanigans have their tracks very well covered and are quite pros at what they do. I’ve met a couple of them (who were text book narcissists) and they are very off the grid when it comes to social media, always looking for something discreet or very non committal etc… OLD is a blessing for these types because they can fake their own persona and you have no references so they can tell you whatever you want to believe. There’s many different types on predators on OLD and this type is one of them.
bluebell34567 · 20/03/2023 13:01
to me not.
i would want to know who did this to me, too.
but i am not sure if you will be able to find much or do much after finding him.
atoughone · 20/03/2023 10:11
I'm
Obsessed with finding the truth having been catfished. Is that so bad ?
bluebell34567 · 20/03/2023 13:01
to me not.
i would want to know who did this to me, too.
but i am not sure if you will be able to find much or do much after finding him.
atoughone · 20/03/2023 10:11
I'm
Obsessed with finding the truth having been catfished. Is that so bad ?
atoughone · 20/03/2023 10:11
I'm
Obsessed with finding the truth having been catfished. Is that so bad ?
atoughone · 20/03/2023 10:11
I'm
Obsessed with finding the truth having been catfished. Is that so bad ?
Deathbyfluffy · 20/03/2023 08:16
You need to separate yourself from other peoples opinions, and realise that he might just be after the same thing as you for similar reasons.
It’s very easy to get drawn into the MN mindset of ‘omg he must be a cheat!!! Burn him at the stake!’
But stop and think logically - if you’re after the same thing with no ulterior motive then surely he could be too?
The only way to find out is to explore the relationship further without relying on strangers on the internet.
atoughone · 18/03/2023 22:56
But this is what I want also !
Low commitment , discretion and just something for me for a change .
Does this make me awful??
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