Hello, im not really sure what im asking but want some recognition that my situation is crap.
Husband (48) and his drinking. Hes a daily drinker anyway. He has a full time job. No issues there. Over the last week or two, hes drank daily more so than usual because hes been off work and its Christmas/NY. Id estimate around 20 units a day (today for example its been a bottle of wine and 4 strong beers).
he does not see a problem with his drinking but i think its just too much. Even in a normal week, i think he drinks too much (beer after work). He would say he doesnt have a problem as he isnt drinking spirits. I find it really boring as we dont do anything with the children. I mean i do take them out but i do a lot of things on my own with them, he does his own thing (usually involves mates and pubs). Already feel like a single parent in a lot of ways.
if i try to bring the subject up, he doesn’t want to discuss it, gets angry and agressive and makes me feel like im blowing it out of proportion.
am i? Do your other halves drink daily? I bet they dont Christmas or not.
im wondering about calling it a day
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Husband and his drinking
Helen901 · 01/01/2023 21:24
pointythings · 25/01/2023 14:53
I don't think castigating @Helen901 is helpful. It takes time to recognise non constructive habits and then break them.
Helen901 · 22/01/2023 20:26
He really doesn’t see his drinking as an issue. The friend he went to see is a heavy drinker too and i would say an alcoholic. He genuinely thinks everyone drinks like he does and im the odd one for not drinking really.
ok im setting myself the end of this week to have told the inlaws and deadline a date for him moving out
pointythings · 22/01/2023 21:40
What @Dottymug said. And I reiterate: given that you are married and that he has as much right to be in the marital home as you do, he may well refuse to move out. Be prepared for that - which effectively means the sooner you start the divorce going, the better it will be.
AttilaTheMeerkat · 22/01/2023 17:51
Al-anon as well does not specifically have a religious element to it.
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