DH and I hired our local village hall to give my eldest DD a 16th B’day party. She was allowed to invite 100 guests. Family weren’t included it was friends from school. We laid on music, food and non alcoholic punch. My younger daughter, 12 was at the party. She loves pop music and dancing. She was hanging around with a neighbours daughter and some older girls from school who are 14/15. DH and I were busy all evening supervising the food and drink. We found out to our horror through our eldest daughter on the Monday after school
that our youngest spent the evening dancing, kissing including french kissing and cuddling with a boy aged 15 (now 16) She definitely told him she was 12 but he thought she was joking and believed she was 14/15. He said see you at School on Monday. He said he really liked her. There was no alcohol involved. My younger daughter is tall and very pretty. She was wearing a mini skirt, fluffy jumper and flat shoes with NO make up. On the Sunday the boy discovered her true age. He has totally blanked my daughter. Pretty sure he is being called a pervert at school by his mates. My daughter is being called a slag by everyone- including my eldest DD who says her little sis ruined her party by acting like a prostitute. My younger daughter is distraught that this boy who kissed her and said he liked her is now completely ignoring her whilst his friends keep staring at her. My younger daughter has stopped working at school and has been chasing one of her friends brothers around the village- he is 14 (nearly 15) asking him to kiss her and be her bf. I have no idea what to do. I’m angry that this happened to my daughter she is 12 and a quarter. She had no interest in boys before this. I asked her what happened- she admitted the kissing and cuddling and said he smelt nice. I know it didn’t go further.
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AngelfishDecay · 07/07/2022 12:58
I think this is a useful life-lesson for your youngest daughter - people are judged on their actions and sometimes that judgement is uncomfortable. She need to exercise some self-restraint and think about her own dignity and self-worth.
Merrifields · 06/07/2022 22:40
My younger daughter has changed overnight. She has turned into a stroppy teenager. I have explained the age of consent to her but she thinks her and this boy (the 16 year old) secretly loves her and that they are Romeo and Juliet. She thinks she is in love with him. She has become very emotional and is obsessed with him. My eldest daughter is jealous of her little sister and isn't talking to her. Pretty sure my 16 year old hasn't kissed a boy herself yet. My DH thinks it's nothing and is quite amused! My eldest daughter didn't want my younger daughter at her party. Oh how I wish I had left her with a relative that night. I feel like her innocence has been taken and of course it's my fault
Pinkbonbon · 07/07/2022 19:56
Also, surprised about the amount of mysoginy on this thread. She kissed one boy. An older boy who should have known better as she had told him she was twelve too. And there's people here talking about how she is 'giving herself a bad name'. Umm no, she isn't, she is a child, ffs.
People might be giving her a bad name, but that's on them, not her.
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