I suppose I'm looking for some assurance here...
Been dating someone just over a month and recently made decision to say we're offically in a proper relationship. I do trust her (as much as I can, given we're still in early stages) and want us to feel free to have our own lives, etc. However, there's just one forthcoming event that's niggling away at me, and would appreciate advice on how to deal with it.
Her friends at work have arranged a "singles night" - bascially going clubbing and getting very drunk - and my new partner's been invited. Obviously, I guess as we were in early stages of dating when this was set up, so maybe her friends still considered her single. She's told me she's not particularly keen on clubbing anyway and could think of nothing worse than being hit on by guy on the dancefloor - but even so, I can't help but feel unsettled by the whole idea of her going out with friends, where the explicit intention is that they're all single and will be on the "pull" or whatever and will (as she's admittd will be the case) be nursing a massive hangover the next day.
In a way, if they hadn't labelled it "singles" then I might not be as bothered so much. I don't want to stop her from having fun.
Any thoughts?
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New partner going on a "singles night"
Anonnyno · 28/06/2022 13:43
burnoutbabe · 28/06/2022 14:48
Why is she telling you it's a singles night? Rather than "a night out with the ladies from work"
It's not a term I'd use with a new partner as it is just bound to worry them.
DomPerignon12 · 28/06/2022 14:48
Well have they called it singles because they all happen to be single? Or because they’re going to get some action with the opposite sex?
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Anonnyno · 28/06/2022 15:03
But she is still single
I guess it depends on whether you consider agreeing to be exclusive but not married as “single”. But I get that she essentially was when they likely set it up.
@Cas112 Thanks - I get that now! I’ll chill out.
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