I’d like to be married, I’m not against it but me and DP are not at that stage and focusing on expecting DC soon.
I understand broader tax implications that are better if married. But in terms of own finances, if he’s on say 100k and I’m on 70k, each already own our own home and have similar savings, what’s the personal benefit to me in being married? Surely if we separated I have better financial protection not being married as I could claim child maintenance?
I also understand the situation if I drop a day at work etc but again, I go back to the child maintenance position and if he wasn’t supportive generally with childcare while I was working then that would be the answer wouldn’t it? As it stands, DP says he will pay for all living costs (food, bills, mortgage) as he currently does at his place anyway since we’ve moved in, so I will just have my usual running costs of my own home to pay in the background.
Wondering if I’m missing something?
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Being married - how would I benefit here financially?
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Wnikat · 25/05/2022 15:44
Being married doesn’t affect whether you get child maintenance or not.
LongDistanceLife · 25/05/2022 15:44
If you drop to part time you will not be paying into your pension, you will also lose pension during maternity leaves. You will miss out on earning capacity a ls your career takes a backseat and potentially the gap in earnings will grow. If divorcing, this earning capacity would be taken into account.
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