Professional cuddling

[emzyemzy]

I'm a single mum of two SEN children and I work full time and care for my DF who has various problems, my last relationship was over a year ago and was for 7yrs, however for lots of reasons affection was sporadic at best (that's the background)
Now to the current issue
I miss cuddles/hugs/warmth, I'm not in a position to have a relationship, I'm not interested in a sexual relationship, I just need a cuddle

Maybe that sounds a bit sad, I obviously hug my children and that's amazing and I wouldn't change it for the world, I don't know, I needed to write in down after spending half hour exploring professional cuddling services, but obviously in current times a no, and tbh I'm probably a bit cynical around paying for a hug etc

I don't know, if you read thankyou, please be kind

[ANightwatcher]

Lol. No it's not!
Might want to try a Mumsnet admin username if you're trying to sound like that's what you are

GeeBranzis post was deleted by Nightwatch thats why that message is displayed-- thats not what they posted 😊

[aweegc]

@GeeBranzi

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Lol. No it's not!
Might want to try a Mumsnet admin username if you're trying to sound like that's what you are! 😂

[Treehops]

@onesiesarethenewblack right? Same - not into striking at all, it seems to attract some good people tho. My theory is it's an ego killer, not immediately accessable to big guys with no technique. With some exceptions, ha. But I think it's connected to breath and learning to stay calm when you're under someone and just wait for your chance to change the stakes. I say this like I know anything - I never got a belt stripe before I had to bow out but I loved it. I used to feel amazing all day the next day, there's something about physically battling someone else in a safe way, for sure.

[CovoidOfAllHumanity]

I got a massage when I felt I needed that kind of emotional touch (before this recent lockdown) and I found it really helpful. I do have a DH and DS who are pretty good huggers but my mum had died and I kind of needed to replace a hug from her in some weird way.

It needs to be a sort of holistic massage and not just a Swedish or spa type of thing. Reiki or Ayurvedic massage I found really helpful.

[MorriseysGladioli]

I've thought about getting one of these.

[MazDazzle]

I second a weighted blanket! And (when we’re allowed) something like osteopathy, acupuncture, Indian head massage etc, if you’re into that kind of thing.

Everyone deserves a hug if they need one. What a sad world we’re living in if even this basic need for human comfort isn’t granted.

[MorriseysGladioli]

I used to love snuggling up on my exes chest and being cuddled up.

[Docketpuo]

Hugs to all who need them.

[Woolwichgirl]

Sending you (((virtual hugs)))🤗

I felt like this for a few years until I had a baby last yr..Hes now my cuddly little partner☺

How about paying for a full body massage?.Do you think that will help?

All the best OP.xx

[PreyingMantlepiece]

It's not the same, but a weighted blanket sort of helps just a little.

I'm a cuddler, but am funny about who I'm cuddling. But I miss cuddling up with friends.

I have one very very huggy nine year old, a weighted blanket, and one of my ferrets likes to lick my face and nose. At bedtime I've got a very big old Ikea tiger (they made this kind ten years ago) and I often wake up spooning it. Ahem.

I do have an OH. He's just got shit personal hygiene and if he tries to hug me he leans his huge weight onto me and he has put my back out this way, so...

[DianaT1969]

It's not a substitute for hugs, but reflexology on the feet and massage is great for connecting like this.

[Flamingosarentreal]

I miss my dance classes for similar reasons. Hugs to those missing them.

[oil0W0lio]

I want to do jiu jitsu too🤩 it sounds ace

[Onsiesarethenewblack]

@Treehops I used to do the same sport until covid killed it. Its not something I would ever be interested in on paper - I like my personal space and I'm not normally interested in fighting - but I found it really addictive. After learning more about it I wondered if part of the 'addiction' was the physical contact, I think it fulfills a very human need, even if it's not one I consciously wanted!

[Treehops]

I hope after all this you have someone who hugs you like they've just come off a long flight and they're so, so happy to be with you again.

[Treehops]

I used to do Brazillian Jiu Jitsu - grappling basically, which is very full on physical contact, smothering at times. Everyone would be elatedly grinning afterwards, for lots of reasons, exercise but also physical contact. One of the charming things about it was these guys who had been rolling for years and had broken down barriers of physical contact and just would casually playfight in conversation or literally flop on each other and chat. Like kids do. Obviously only in that context (unless they were allowed out in public with alcohol, ha) It's an innate human need. I got injured and stopped going but still keep in touch with some of the guys, it was ace. And funnily enough now, if my little boy is full of energy at bedtime we play guard game and end up giggling and happy. Playfighting, hugging, it's all so human. I have a hug list for after all of this. I like to think of all the people I'm going to greet like I've just come off a flight. Running jump style.

[Corcra]

I felt so sad reading your op. A hug seems like minimum you deserve. I wish happiness and hugs for you 🤗 💗

[RosyPrimroseDoll]

Where is themadhugger when you need them?!?
Sending you a huge hug!

[luckiestgirl]

I’d book a bodyworker or somatic healer or a sex worker. I’m sure they’ve done stranger things than just hug someone for an hour

[cheeseismydownfall]

Would a really good massage fulfill something of what you need, OP?

My best hug ever was from a osteopath. She was both strong and comforting at the same time, and she wrapped her arms around me to release my spine in this really deep squeeze. It was amazing! If the osteopathy ever stopped working for her she could totally reinvent herself as a professional hugger!

[purpleme12]

Yes I get it
Also single
I'm so irritable and not as happy and not as relaxed and I'm sure it's cos I'm not getting cuddles partly
I haven't had a cuddle since October when I saw my mate
I'm working from home so can't cuddle anyone at work
😔

[Nsky]

Cats are fab

[iklboo]

((((((HUG))))))

[EarthSight]

Sending you a pink, candyflossy hazy cloud of a hug 😊