My life revolves around doing things to avoid other people telling me off

[again2020]

Not sure how to word this, it probably sounds a little weird.

I feel like I spend most of my time rushing around doing tasks and trying to pre-empt what other people might pick up on to try and find fault with me.

Examples:

My partner: I often do errands for my partner or he gets annoyed and says I'm lazy. I hoover and mop at night to avoid him telling me I don't do any cleaning. I do whatever he wants to keep the peace.

Work colleague: I have a jobshare type arrangement with a colleague. I am rushed off my feet lately, but any small task she can find fault with me on the days she is in and I'm not, she will send a passive aggressive email to the boss highlighting it. I have to make sure I've covered and done everything to avoid getting into trouble by her and it feels like squeezing 5 days work into 3.

Not really sure what I'm asking. Maybe this is a strange way of thinking and I need to change? Obviously it's having an effect on my mental health and is making me anxious.
I'm scared of my partner screaming at me or loosing my job, respectively.

Does anyone know what I mean? How can I move forward? Do I need to toughen up?

[Rulesdontapplytome]

I can’t imagine the mistakes at work are sackable. That’s if they’re mistakes at all. So stop being worried about being sacked. It’s so difficult to sack people these days. Also learn how to take pleasure in other people’s misfortune. Maybe plant some seeds about her. Say someone else (the office gossip) told you something. Don’t worry if they’re complete lies. If ur not comfortable with that, then start stealing her things. Silly stuff. Just bits of stationary that she uses. Don’t ever admit to it to anyone. Maybe you can delete her work without being incriminated. Remember, it’s not what they think they know...... it’s what they can prove.

Now to ur H. Fuck about with the settings on his laptop. Mouse speed, screen sizing, printer settings etc. Maybe turn the WiFi off and on when he’s on a Zoom call. Start throwing small things of his away. Things he won’t notice for ages. Maybe one hiking boot or one cycling shoe etc. Enjoy watching him getting frustrated looking for it. Send the cunt crazy. And stop cleaning the house. He sees you as a maid. Your payment is a roof over your head. If ur gonna stay with him...... be the one who is unbearable to be with.

And don’t get caught.

[ProfessorSillyStuff]

@Rulesdontapplytome I like your style!

Keep smiling... confuse the buggers, hehe