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Oh God, I kissed a colleague last night

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nothappy1234 · 14/12/2019 09:38

It was at a xmas work do once we both left to go home. He was drunk and I was tipsy, at least. We're both single and liked each other for a long time. He took my number.

Before all this he told me he was leaving the job once he'd worked out his notice in the new year.
He wants to date in between times. But my worry is it's going to be sooooo awkward until he leaves.

Also he was pretty forthright about wanting sex as soon as we meet up, which is a bit too soon for me personally. I don't really want FWB or any of that. Oh jesus what if he just pretends it never happened? Or what if he tells everybody and they take the piss endlessly...

Just wanted to get perspectives

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Sunflowersok · 15/12/2019 09:46

Oh wow it just sounds like he wants some fun with you without taking it anywhere

nothappy1234 · 15/12/2019 09:17

My thoughts exactly namechanged, at least now I know. Feeling disappointed.

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Namechangedyorkshire · 15/12/2019 08:17

@nothappy1234

So basically i made it clear that I wasn't interested til after he had left this job and the texts came to a halt.

Oh well. At least you now know it was about getting your knickers off. If it hadn't you would have had a text such as let's have a coffee once I've left.

Swerved it there anyway

CheekyFuckerHQ · 14/12/2019 17:06

@jewel1968
I’m a bit of a unit too..... and I like a horse 🤣

jewel1968 · 14/12/2019 16:22

Cheeky in my defense I am rather tall. . My mother could not understand my scepticism

RaininSummer · 14/12/2019 16:21

My ex would say something like 'fine woman'. He is from Yorkshire if that makes a difference .

InTheBleakMidwinterIWouldSing · 14/12/2019 16:14

"You're a fine woman and I can't wait to sleep with you"

I'm so glad that you confirmed he's Irish. I was worried for a moment there.

MidnightMystery · 14/12/2019 16:10

He just wants to shag you before he leaves the work place

CheekyFuckerHQ · 14/12/2019 15:59

a 'fine horse of a woman'

That’s my new life goal right there 😂

DublinBlowin · 14/12/2019 15:55

Im not Irish but living in Dublin and “fine woman” is a very Irish expression.

There’s nothing wrong with what he said at all!

Moviestar · 14/12/2019 15:50

Oh dear. Well best to find out now rather than later I suppose. Well played you.

jewel1968 · 14/12/2019 15:42

I was once described as a 'fine horse of a woman' by an elderly Irish man. Apparently it is a massive compliment as it suggests I would be helpful on the farm

nothappy1234 · 14/12/2019 14:37

So basically i made it clear that I wasn't interested til after he had left this job and the texts came to a halt. Fs

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PositiveVibez · 14/12/2019 13:37

You're a fine woman and I can't wait to sleep with you

L'il missy

Moviestar · 14/12/2019 13:12

I'm Irish. Have been described as a lot of things but never a fine woman!!! Very old fashioned term but perhaps in vino veritas.
I don't think we can judge these things out of context really, I'm sure you will know yourself OP , if you know each other a long time , you would speak differently than to someone you've just met. Your own judgement will see you right.
Enjoy the bit of romance at Christmas.:)

nothappy1234 · 14/12/2019 12:55

He's from Dublin... but it was a lot of other hints I won't get into now. I'm going to wait it out til he leaves, then maybe get lunch and figure out what he's really looking for. A bit of cooling off won't hurt.

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Transformer123 · 14/12/2019 12:25

He could just want sex. Play a bit hard to get and make it clear you don't go straight into that kind of thing. Look for clues as to how interested he really is.

If he's really into you, he'd be willing to bide his time until he leaves his job.

When I look back at my past relationships, I just wish I'd taken things so much slower - got to know who they REALLY were before starting a relationship.

Shimy · 14/12/2019 12:24

Perhaps a cowboy

Shimy · 14/12/2019 12:23

What he actually said was "You're a fine woman

Is from the Deep South USA?

Pinkarsedfly · 14/12/2019 12:23

A fine woman?

Did you cop off with John Wayne?

HamAndPineapple · 14/12/2019 12:14

ha ha, yes that makes me think of him as some young wannabe Joe Dolan, telling you you're a goodlukkin wummin

LellyMcKelly · 14/12/2019 12:11

Is he Irish? A fine woman is a very Irish expression, like saying ‘A fine figure of a man’.

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namechange4052 · 14/12/2019 12:10

A fine woman 🙈😂

JoanBonJovi · 14/12/2019 12:06

Fine woman is just odd.

Are you English?

LazyDaisey · 14/12/2019 12:05

“You're a fine woman and I can't wait to sleep with you"

Wait what? That doesn’t mean what you claim he’s said.

Ok I take it back. You’re a drama queen.

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