Does anyone else?
I know I am quite lucky with my MIL, she's not overbearing, quite easygoing and doesn't rely on my DH. I also respect her a lot as she has raised my DH and SIL singlehandedly since my DH turned 6 YO.
BUT - I get annoyed (inwardly) over the most miniscule things that she does. e.g. buying too many toys for my dds (usually toys which fall to pieces after 5 mins), using babytalk with them, not listening properly to dd1s conversations.
I am sure that these things wouldn't annoy me as much if I felt I could be honest with her and tell her that it really gets my back up when she does these things. I feel that I would hurt her feelings unneccessarily.
In the same way, I don't think she could be completely honest with me, because I think sometimes she should tell me not to be so precious about the way I want others to talk to dds or feed them.
I was disappointed while we were on holiday that she did not feel that she could take the initiative to pick up dd2 if she cried or try to spend more time with dd1. Again I think it's my fault.
Our holiday was particularly stressful (my parents and sister came on this holiday too). I expected that all of the family would stick together in the evenings but only 1 night out of 4 did we all sit down to a meal together. I hope that I haven't made my MIL feel alienated on this holiday(she is quite quiet normally)
I'm now off to bed, I can't think of any way that I could improve relations with my MIL without hurting her feelings. Any ideas?
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I think I'm a bad DIL
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MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo · 24/06/2007 00:04
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