I really hope someone out there can give me some advice, I just don't know how much more I can take. I don't know what to do for the best. My partner and I have been together almost 8 years, we have a 3yr old child together, and are partners in a business that I run and take my wage from. It's been a rocky few years for us, we lost his younger brother to illness a couple of years ago which I believe in itself has put a massive strain on the relationship, but also my partner suffers long term with depression and anxiety, he has medication for it. He drinks a lot, too much in my opinion. He has recently stopped - been 5 weeks so far - this time. I believe he only stopped because I left the house with our child and went to my parents. I had had enough of pretending to be OK with the drinking amongst other things. I feel like my like has been sucked away, I never speak to my friends, never get invited out anymore. He has suggested in the past we go on nights out but nothing ever comes of it. Whenever I've arranged for my parents to have little one he always changes his mind last minute and says he'd rather stay in. It's difficult to get free time when I'm constantly working long hours. I feel like I have no life and I'm just existing day to day. He has always worked for his dad, but recently got 'sacked'. His dad still pays him a part time wage but he's home all day while I'm at work. A typical day for me would be get up early get little one up and dressed, breakfast then drop off with childminder before going to work for 9. Partner picks up little one at 5 and brings to shop, we swap over so he does late shift 5.30 -8pm I take little one home and make tea, put little one to bed, do housework. It upsets me that he's home all day, and does next to nothing but expects me to work all day then come home clean up and make his tea. This only scratches surface of reasons I want to end things with him. I just don't know how to do the best byy little one though coz partner would never let us go quietly not would he leave if I asked. He had already threatened if I want to end things I can go but little one stays with him and he will fight me. I don't want that for my child, but I don't want to be with partner. I feel trapped.
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Ignore his threats . There is a law that is child centred . Why these men thing they can I’ve ride family law and ‘take kids ‘ sheesh
It might be time to start a dossier
Look at costs and money
And write a fairly detailed log with times and events
I called the police and whilst it kick starts a lot of admin it does send the message
No one has to stay and be abused
Educate yourself as you have so many rights and he really doesn’t have a a clue
When I say ‘educate yourself ‘ I don’t
Mean that nastily ! It’s just for me understanding the law and legalities is massively empowering that all xxx
Stay safe and do NOT hesitate to call
Police if you get scared 
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Stay safe and do not hesitate to call the police if you need to 
Well done pink you have done the hard bit. Now you have to stay strong.
He may try a different tactic this time and threaten suicide or promise to change/big romantic talk and gestures.
I agree with kitkats it may be a good idea to register the situation with 101.
Best of luck for your future
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