I've posted before, under different names, and had amazing support.
I am 30, been with DH for 12 years, married for 3. Met at uni.
I had a breakdown last summer - my mental health spiralled. Never happened before. I started to reassess our relationship.
I realised I'm not very physically attracted to him, never have been really. I am much more attractive than him, but I never noticed this before. He is a good man, no abuse, He makes me feel safe, and maybe I repressed that side of myself because I am very much a 'do the right thing' person. Sex is ok, but not great. He is such a nice person, but I am realising nice is maybe not enough.
I have had counselling for 6 months. My mental health is better. But I feel like our relationship has run its course. I don't know if I could allow myself to get a divorce though.
How long do I wait this out? Time is running out for me to decide, and I suddenly feel rushed for time.
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Stuck2018 · 22/01/2018 20:32
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