I hate my husband's 'work wife'

TheBestMedicine · 2017-12-11 14:46:49

I'm angry at both him and her. Angry at her because she treats him like a substitute boyfriend (it has snowed here and they communicated this morning before work about whether it was safe for her to drive in. They've gone shopping together at lunchtime at work time and she talks to him about her problems). I hate her also because she has flirted with him on Facebook. He didn't flirt back but he didnt exactly tell her to fuck off, either. I am angry at him because even though I've told him how she makes me feel, he won't pull away: SHE IS MY FRIEND AND THIS IS WHAT FRIENDS DO. Husband and I have had very strong words about this. He understands where I'm coming from but ultimately, will not end the friendship with her. He must make his own decisions but I do find this hurtful. I'm a sahp to our 3 kids so am not exactly mingling with men. I wish he could know how it feels. Dh has had a previous work wife - this one is just the latest. But I'm older and more resentful this time because I've been through it before. I'm so angry I could spit. I don't know what I'm asking really ... maybe just for a way to cope. I've reinstated 'date night' for us. I'm trying my best to be all for him sometimes; surprise him with little gifts, that kind of thing. But I just feel so sad when he constantly reacts to her (this includes 'liking' a selfie or her on Facebook taken next to a snowman someone else built. Not built by her or any friends - just to get her pic of her on in the snow. She's 30 ffs. I find her so childish, attention-seeking and vain, I just don't understand why my dh thinks she's so great).

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