Why is he in jail?

[Gaolbird]

Complete namechange just in case of links.
A week or so ago ds came home from school and said his best friends dad was going to jail, but he hadn't done anything. It was because a girl had got mad at him. I didnt pry but tried to instill the idea that you dont generally go to jail in this country unless you actually had done something you shouldn't have.
His friend was round on a playdate this week, and his dad is indeed now in jail. Didnt ask for any details when it was mentioned as kid was embarrassed.
My ds and this child have had regular playdates at each other's house.
My q is, what type of offence is he likely to have committed? Im sure i saw him at school after i first heard he was going to jail, so he obv wasn't taken into custody immediately. I (fortunately) have no experience with the system, but the only thing i can think of is possible dv or property damage??
Would you still let your ds play at theirs, not knowing the full story? Im a bit wary tbh.

[CheeseyToast]

Grandad lol sounds as though you're ready for a job as thread patrol

[Grandadwasthatyou]

Nowhere did I say you needed my permission but think perhaps op would have been back if they had anything to add before your comment 4 months down the line.

[CheeseyToast]

Grandad I would! I was on the thread and am following. Not needing your permission but thanks for your concern.

[Grandadwasthatyou]

Wouldn't call November 2017 recent!

[CheeseyToast]

Shatnerswig not really, a zombie thread is years old, this one is recent.

[ShatnersWig]

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[CheeseyToast]

Sensimilla wow, low standards!

[Sensimilla]

I have family and friends who have been in prison and parents of dcs friends; who I am happy for my dc to spend time with....drugs, theft, motoring offenses

But 'he is in prison because a girl got mad at him' would not be ok. It sounds like a sexual offense?

[ReasonableLlama]

Some news reports state the road they live in, do you know this?

[Gaolbird]

Weird that you hadn't read the reason why I wasn't...
Anyway, just asked DS for surname, it's one with a number of possible spellings, as is the Christian name. Nothing has come up so far.

[Dozer]

Weird that you’re not just looking for info online.

[Bekabeech]

I would be curious too. My DC have twice mentioned crimes in relation to acquaintances and both times they were easy to spot looking at the local paper. Although sometimes the reporting is delayed.

If you are concerned you could always contact the Police to enquire using Sarah’s Law.

[kittensinmydinner1]

No one has mentioned remand ! At the time of being actually charged with an offence (which can happen sometime AFTER being arrested) and released either pending investigation (new police bail time limits) or police bail.. THEN at charging , the CPS can request remand (held in custody) if they believe the suspect could interfere with witnesses to the crime.

This happens overnight at the police station then he will go to court in the morning- where a magistrate will decide if the thing he's been accused of is sufficiently serious to warrant keeping him in prison until his trial. (Or there is great concern of witness interference and intimidation).

So he MAY not of done anything. He MAY just be accused of something but entirely innocent. (Although fairy unlikely as the level of evidence a magistrate will require at a custody hearing is quite rightly very high before you can lose your liberty.

Also agree about trivial crimes and prison. This happens after a catalogue of opportunities to deal with an offence in other ways has been avoided/ignored. Prisons simply don't have the space to hold first time shoplifters!

[HotelEuphoria]

In my mall town everyone in the school yard would know what he'd done in five minutes with or without a surname.

[Gaolbird]

Obviously not reading closely enough, my dear.

[MaidenMotherCrone]

Threw not through....

[MaidenMotherCrone]

Given this is Mnet,

The Dad asked a question on AIBU ( possibly relating to nosey school mum). An argument followed (with lots of shameless place marking) and Nosey School Mum resorted to ( the big gun in any MNetter's arsenal) ' Did you mean to be so rude?'.

The crim Dad came back at her with a powerful 'ODFOD' and a ( low blow!)

Nosey School Mum feeling triggered and anxious called 101 and logged it.

Police had nothing better to do that day so arrested The Dad and through him in jail for 5 years.

This is a true account as I googled 'The Dad v Nosey School Mum'.

OR....... how the feck can a stranger have any idea what another stranger is in prison for!

[CheeseyToast]

I've had this situation twice. A classmate of my then 5yo told the class at morning news that her dad was in prison and a few years later my son's friend announced that "my dad's in prison, he's a robber!"

With the first one, I didn't let my child go to their house once the dad was out of prison. I don't know what the crime was but in my view he wasn't someone I wanted around my child.

With the second child, his father is in prison long term and his mother is v young, v sweet and a fantastic mum. I really admire how she copes and am more than happy for the children to play together.

[FucksakeCuntingFuckingTwats]

Also just to back you, any sensible parent would want to know what was going on so I have no idea why people are giving you a hard time except that is the way people seem to be these days on here. Always people ready to have a go no matter what the post is about. Very strange mentality. However if I was you I'd just continue doing what you are and supervised playdates at yours.

[FucksakeCuntingFuckingTwats]

Sexual abuse lots of people get bail before court.

[cod]

Begging ditto.

[cod]

God. There’s a lot of shit law experts on here.

He might be on licence. Might have a suspended sentence he’s breached.
Tv licences don’t normally cause custody. Failure to pay court fines for them does though.

[SleepingStandingUp]

Still dont seems that he would be in danger there arm HOWEVER you said that he doesn't want to go there so that's all that matters

[Gaolbird]

sleeping no, kid, dad, new partner and baby all live with (dad's?) parents in a large house, have done since we started playmates maybe 7/8 months ago.
hecky no, I don't think I'd ask, I can't see her telling me something like that based on the passing acquaintance we have. I won't lie if she asks, I'll just say DS prefers playing round ours. Which he does. Partly because they don't seem to provide after school snacks (which we do) and don't seem to be around to defuse kid arguments...

[SleepingStandingUp]

If kids mom lives away with new partner and Dad is in jail, so kid now lives with Nan, why do you need to keep him away? I presume he previously lived with Dad so is no longer living in the house where something may or may not have happened


I assumed dv or sexual assault