So me and OH have been having relationship counselling we separated last year but agreed to give things ago again we have been together for nearly 7 years. Short story I gained weight and have a chronic illness managing to lose weight now oh told me on holiday that because I gained weight he had an emotional affair at work he insists that nothing physical happened but he was tempted,
. I was out of work but have gone back to work and helping round the house more . Things seemed to be improving and we started relate , after a session he told me he had had a threesome at uni with an ex girlfriend and things got awkward and they broke up the girl at work reminded him of her.
I'm not a prude in anyway I love to experiment but oh has always said he never had a threesome , I asked him why he lied he just shrugged did the swallowing nervous thing he does and said it was in the past. I have problems trusting him now I feel like him easily lying about the threesome thing may mean he's lied about his affair bring purely emotional then he said he feels like he can't tell me things as I get upset and dwell on little things especially now after the emotional affair he had. He says we are in a good place and we are really getting there he doesn't want to throw away 7 years of a relationship.
I guess my core issue is my opinion of my oh has changed I thought he would never have affairs or be shallow when I was struggling with illness. I thought he was one of the good ones not a liar oh got upset when I told him my opinion of him has changed. I love him and relate has helped us so far but I don't know if things will ever go back to how they were. I'm not sure if the relationship is worth saving if i view him so differently.
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lilly0 · 17/10/2017 00:59
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