I have a family member who I suspect is drinking a lot of alcohol. I am also worried about possible driving with alcohol and having child in the car. I worry about how the child is being treated.
There was not much (if any) drinking going on before splitting with a partner. They became closer to certain friends who also had children and despite various children being in the house these people were drinking alcohol to an unknown extent.
Then a new partner came on the scene. This partner appears to be a heavy drinker (perhaps also drugs). The friends started to disappear, family members were not invited to the house when they had been very frequently prior to all these changes.
Many items are being sold from clothes, toys to household goods. Even things which were left decades ago in relatives houses are being asked for. The family response is to say you can have these things but we will check weekly that you still have them. Money is demanded with a lot of pressure. There has been violence to certain relatives only. The "weaker" people.
The child is forced to eat food they do not like. There is little interaction with the child. If relatives do not provide money they can not see the child. The child is shouted at and put down several times in every day. The child is sad, and has mentioned that they do not see the wee friends. The child does not see the other parent or that side of family relatives. This side are being pushed away. Child is stoical about their situation.
The relative can not see what they are doing. They were in a job for many years but I think there has been problems there and I think they do not work there now. There are housing cost arrears and they could be evicted. They borrow money and do not pay back anyone. People are getting fed up with this. The house is not as clean as it used to be. They seem not to use any public rooms. Child in their bedroom and the parent and partner in another. It is isolating for the child and damaging I would think.
As a result of violence I have had to keep away even though I am worried about the child.
It is easy for me to walk away, but the child can not. The child does not have choices. The child should not be seeing this way of life and hopefully should not think this is how to live.
Is there anything I can do. I have heard that we have to wait for the adult to see that they are doing wrong but there are so many people affected here I really doubt if we have time to wait.
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