Not sure I love my OH anymore. So many things he does annoys me now and I actually can't bear him touching me. They must be things he's always done but I really can't stand it now and I'm so angry all the time. We've been together since 2002. The last time we had sex was January 2014, the night DS2 was conceived. Since then he's gone down on me twice and that's it. He seems to have no interest in sex, I have interest in sex but not with him.
We're more like flatmates together now, we don't kiss goodnight or good morning. We haven't properly kissed in well over 2 years. We don't hold hands, hug or anything. If he touches my hand even by accident I get a shudder as can't stand it. Little things I don't remember noticing years back (been together since 2002) really annoy me now. Clammy hands all the time, he's so hairy and refuses to do anything about it, his back hair falls out everywhere it's disgusting, he moans all the time about work, certain words he uses annoy me and in general unless we are talking about the kids we have zero to chat, there is no banter whatsoever. I'll go outside and chat more to my 60 year old neighbour and have more of a laugh with him in 20mins then I do with OH in a week.
Recently 2 exes got in touch after 15 years. One lives 400 miles away but we met up once when I was away for work and we had the time of our lives. Since then we've met up once more and are planning to early May again. He's married with kids and has no interest in being with me which is fine, we both know where we stand and are just after the sex. For me it's just nice to know somebody wants me. OH is so unadventurous and boring in bed and after having nothing for years it's amazing to be back with ex once in a while as we know exactly how to turn each other on.
The other ex lives abroad now and is also married. We fell in love years ago but were very young and had to go our separate ways (long story). We've been talking loads and sexting on facebook chat and he is planning a trip over here for work.
OH loves me, we have 2 young children and live in a nice area. I've thought about leaving him but I'm a SAHM and wouldn't be able to survive financially without him. I'm in a sexless marriage and need sex, I don't want it with him. Writing all this down I look awful and I know it. Please help, I don't know what to do. I'm really down, can't concentrate on anything and just feel stuck. I've felt this way for years but had never cheated till this year.
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Don't think I love husband anymore. Sexless marriage & cheated.
waterglass · 14/04/2017 14:38
So in the last 3 and 1/2 months(you said you haven't cheated til this year),2 exes have got in touch with you,you've had sex with one of them twice and have arranged for a third time,you've been talking and sexting the other a lot,and are going to meet him for sex when he comes over to this country,you were away for work when you cheated the first time but you're a stay at home mother,you can't leave your husband that repulses you because you are financially dependent on him but you have your own money from a business you sold ten years ago and don't live off his money and you've had nothing from your husband sexually in a decade(you said this) but you conceived your child with him in January 2014 and he's gone down on you twice in the last 3 years?
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