Backstory: DP and I been together for two years, I'm almost 30 weeks pg. We've been having a rough few weeks and I've been questioning things. Last argument was yesterday. About the fact that he's very unaffectionate towards me, rarely cuddles or kisses me. Sex has been on a very steep decline since we found out about the pregnancy. He doesn't want it. This is hard for me and has had a negative affect on my self esteem.
So today, he leaves about 1 to go briefly to work, then on to a mates to go out for a bit to catch up. No problem, he won't be back late he says. Last contact we have is me texting him to have a good time, I'll probably be asleep when he gets in and that I'm still struggling with things as they are. This was in response to a text he sent me and was just after he left. No reply.
I have DC from a past relationship so I just crack on with stuff with them, have a bath and head to bed early. He's usually back 10-11 as he works 12 hours a day on weekends. Wake up to my son at 2 and he's not here. Check my phone to find a missed call at 21.50 ( I went to sleep early) and a text saying he was staying at his friends as it was 5 mins from work and they were having a good time. Also that his friend was a mess and 'needed' him.
I'm not saying this isn't ok, I just feel really vulnerable. The pregnancy has really changed me from who I used to be and is having an effect on how I view myself. Him barely touching me in even an affectionate way is seriously adding to my self esteem issues. So this seems big to me. The fact that I'm struggling so he disappears. I won't see him until Tuesday now as I'm always asleep when he gets in. But his friend is struggling so he must stay with him. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?
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Feeling very vulnerable. Am I right to?
GidgetMems · 25/03/2017 02:37
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