Afternoon,
I have had a somewhat on-off relationship with a woman. We dated briefly a few times before she said she wanted to meet up as friends. I went along with that, whilst seeing other people (because I assumed she really meant just friends), though I didn't meet anyone I clicked with. After 4 months or so she came on to me one evening and we got together and were an item (she told both her parents and friends we were) for 4 months or so, before out of the blue (to me) she called it off saying she wasn't ready and it was happening too fast. So...back to friends, though this time it was a struggle because I now had feelings. We recently went on holiday for a week and towards the end she kept getting in my bed and snuggling up to me for a few minutes before darting off back to her own bed. I decided once we got back maybe we had a chance at being more than friends again, and that I should think about going for it. We both had quite a few work trips after that so didn't have much chance to see each other (only met for a drink twice in a month), but she then invited to me to hers for dinner....where I was shocked to be told she has met someone and they are now an item! She still wants to be friends, and was really upset when I said I'm not sure I can be.
I dont know what to do now. I'm also really confused what all the snuggling on holiday was about if she had no interest beyond friendship (and she knows I do because when she told me about her new love interest she said she was worried I would be upset, which I was!). The idea of not seeing her anymore is horrible (and she has made it clear it will massively upset her too), as is watching her have a relationship with another man. I think my only choice is the first one though isn't it? If she's with someone else I guess I've blown any chance I might have had already at more than friendship.
Thomas
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TommyJones · 02/02/2017 17:39
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