Good evening and sorry to bother you all about the same guy (I posted about him on other threads).
So, story is as follows, chatting online with guy from same town as me who currently lives abroad. We chatted almost every day, etc.
Then he disappears for about 6 weeks, I thought I had been ghosted (hence username). Fine, these things happen, although please remember we are both mid 40s.
He comes back with no explanation and we agree to meet (he will be in the U.K. End of January).
But since then I haven't heard from him again, he contacts me every 10 days or so. The magic is gone, although when he texts I feel warm again.
This would be a very short term relationship/one night stand as I am in menopause and he wants children. I am single, never been married, no children.
But I want to feel special even if it is one night stand whilst I feel like he is not making an effort any more now that he has "caught me" so to speak.
Thing is I also don't want him to think that I am spending so much time thinking about him.
Having said all this would you:
- Go ahead, have a one night stand without the magic? I haven't had sex for eight years or so
- Just find an excuse not to see him and let the all thing finish before the one night stand? As I said, it will finish quickly anyway
- Explain that I want to be wooed and if he wants to sleep with me he needs to at least pretend that he has some sort of feelings for me (just until the date)? I am very proud and would hate to do this, but I bow to the collective mumsnet wisdom
Thanks for your help.