My partner and I have been together for 4 years. At first I was more than happy to take over planning things, organising the house and everything that entailed, but somewhere along the way I've realised that I may be a total and utter mug.
I'll put it clearly- other than the phone bill which every single month has included late fees, I organise everything. Rent, electricity, council tax, food shopping, household items, repairs, literally everything. He is supposed to contribute half but has never ever paid without being prompted. Food shop is planned and executed by me each week and I have yet to see a penny. When we have a lot of late nights (we work very long hours in the City) I organise Hello Fresh or similar. I lend him money which is paid back roughly 50% of the time.
The housework is a constant bone of contention, when it starts getting on top of me I suggest taking an equal share of rooms which we're individually responsible for. He finds reasons for not getting round to it and ultimately doesn't do it properly anyway, and this is not a case of high standards- were talking not washing pots properly so there's still food on them 
Writing this out is embarrassing, even more so when I consider the dozen or so other times where I've reached the end of my patience and tried to talk to him about it. Each time I'm rewarded with a list of things which 'I haven't done', despite clearly spending 90 minutes every night cooking and cleaning while he sits playing video games.
It's not that I don't know what to do, I know he's utterly taking the piss I just have no idea of how to handle this. Other than breaking up with him! Does anyone else have experience of this bullshit?
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CowPatRoberts · 12/01/2017 21:05
He gives you a list of things you haven't done? Er - he hasn't done them either 
The proper response is not to start defending yourself for this perceived failure but to say briskly "great, then you can do those while I finish off this one". I can imagine it won't be successful though. It seems he really does believe that you are the only one in the household who should be doing chores. Or paying. Is his solid gold cock amazing enough to make up for all the things he's just not up to? I know there are men in the world who are not only good company but can pay their share and find their way to the sink. I raised some of those myself.
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