DP and I have a DC together.
We've had a few ups and downs over the last few years and hurdles thrown our way but we've pulled through and have been very happy recently.
I attended counselling for some time and they pinpointed that miscommunication is a problem in our relationship. I've therefore sought to communicate better and it's been helping.
DP however is dreadful at communication and I struggle to get him to discuss anything significant at all, he just clams up. Over the last few days, things have been pretty miserable as it turns out that DP has not been honestly communicating with me over some extra work he's been doing. I've explained to him that I can deal with anything if he's honest with me from the outset, but yet again, he hasn't been honest and I've discovered that he's going to have to work over Christmas, its my first Christmas without one of my parents who died this year.
He's known this for a while but has argued in his defence that he's too "frightened" to communicate with me because of how I might react. I feel upset and hurt by what he's said as surely, if that's the case, he knows it will be far worse the longer he witholds information anyway? I feel like a real ogre and wonder how bad I must be if this is how he feels too.
It takes 2 to communicate and I can't force him to do so, yet I know it's the main thing getting in the way of our relationship.
How to deal with this one? Am I to blame? I do fly off the handle at times and usually because he's just not communicating!
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Partner is "frightened" to communicate with me
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NormanJacques · 21/12/2016 09:07
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