Finally set up on account after months of lurking... Sorry this may be long.
So my husband has embarked on an emotional affair with on old friend (possibly more but they were children: teenagers at the time) who now lives in a different country. She tracked him down about 6 months ago which he told me about and they sent a couple of courteous catch up emails and he randomly told me that even if she was back home he wouldn't want to meet up with her.
Fast forward and about a month ago she started messaging again. He mentioned a couple of messages in passing - all completely innocent. But then he started become detached from me, and I had the feeling something was off. Had a look and there were lots of essay length emails between them... The stuff he's saying to her was definitely crossing a line but she was keeping things very friendly and asking about me etc and checking that i was happy they were messaging... He lied and said I knew all about it and I didn't care but even if I did he wouldn't stop.
Now he hardly uses his phone and is never on Watsaap. But recently he's been texting me but then not replying back to me... I've just assumed he's busy at work and left it at that... but I needed to send him a photo so went to send it on watsap and saw that he was online.... For ages! Still no reply to me... So I sent him a couple more messages... No reply to me but still online...
Now for the past week I've been watching and he's literally on watsap all day! I checked his phone one night and there were messages on there between them. I didn't bother reading all of them but then it started to bug me so I checked again and they'd all been deleted! Went back to his emails and they've all been deleted too!
Now before anyone says I shouldn't be snooping... He's welcome to go through my phone at any time (and does) and he finds it funny that I have literally every message I've ever sent or received for the last 6 years (no idea why?!)
So before this gets any longer! What should I do? I honestly don't believe he will ever believe he's doing anything wrong?
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unicornpoopoop · 23/11/2016 10:22
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