We have a financial issue and DH is having a genuine breakdown about it.
We had a house move which coincided with DH changing workplaces with resulting pay decrease. I was worried we wouldn't manage but he assured me we would. He wasn't honest with parents about pay decrease.
All the money for move was borrowed from DCs savings accounts- money FIL has given them.
We have no way to pay back the money from his pay check so DH has been trying to do 'matched betting' to make it back. (Matched betting makes use of bookmakers’ free bet offers to gain a risk-free qualifying bet by making two bets where the odds cancel each other out so that you make a profit regardless of outcome.) It's time consuming but it all adds up. However, in desperation he has twice gambled the money he's slogged away at and lost it. Causing him further despair.
He's stressed and not eating or sleeping well. He's depressed with our situation and feels like a failure.
I wish I could help but me working wouldn't cover the cost of childcare for two young DC.
I think he should tell his parents but he refuses as can't face the guilt and lecture.
I feel he needs to let them know the situation and how awful he is feeling about it.
Im really worried about him and am considering going directly to MIL and explaining it all.
Is that the right thing to do or would it be too much of a breach of trust?
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Should I go behind DH back and tell MIL
Onsera3 · 19/11/2016 21:41
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